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peacockbluey:
2, 9, 27, 41, 48
2. Have you ever been deeply in love?
She asks, as though I am not ARSE OVER TIT IN LOVE with you at this very moment, you goof
*whispers* Srsly tho, I am so in love with this lady. I have never been in love before, and it is strange and overwhelming and also THE MOST AMAZING. What a feeling.
9. What’s the most important part of a relationship?
I am not actually sure whether this is asking after the most important thing to make a relationship work, or, like… the best bit of the relationship? I will attempt to answer both! It feels like such a cliché to say communication? But seriously, communication. An environment where you’re not afraid to talk about things or bring things up, even if they’re potentially difficult or scary, or it feels like you’d be ruining a mood, just makes- *everything* so much better. Not just the Srs Bsns, but everything! The silliness, the sex, the bouncing ideas around and conversation. It’s like being able to breathe. And it feels… confident. Having that comfortable open communication means that you feel able to take things on, to go places together, and that is awesome.
As far as the latter interpretation of that question? HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO ANSWER THAT I ASK YOU. There are too many amazing bits!
27. If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?
Hmm. In high school, certainly I would tell myself that being single was no reflection on myself, that it had nothing to do with me that my friends were constantly dating and I never was. In general, I’d tell myself-not to make decisions based on the assumption that feelings are *going* to develop if they’re not already there. Even if I think it’s ~logical~ that I should develop romantic or sexual feelings for someone; that is not actually how that works. You can be flattered by attention, you can love someone as a friend, but that doesn’t mean that you should assume anything else *will* develop. You end up trying to force those feelings, and nothing good comes out of that.
41. What’s your imagination of a “perfect date”?
Wellllllll we came pretty close to one, didn’t we, with our day at the aquarium, followed by delicious gelato and a gooooooorgeous dinner out and getting squiffy on fancy cocktails. That was a pretty excellent date. I think a day out hiking somewhere gorgeous and secluded, and you could laugh at me while I climb and clamber all over everything that’s climb-or-clamberable and a cool lake where we could go skinny dipping and then dry off in a comfortably warm breeze would be a marvellous date. Or one day when we finally get to go see IAMX together, and can get just FUCKED UP on the energy of their shows. That’d be pretty great. Or, ooh, there’s a really good used bookstore I’m gonna have to take you to in Minneapolis, we can have a fun date there. Ooh! There’s a tapas and tequila place right next door; we can do margaritas and then go explore the bookstore. DATE. IT’S GONNA HAPPEN
48. What’s your favorite love song?
*grins* You know, Stephin Merrett says he doesn’t understand why people play The Book of Love at weddings, but the thing I love about it is that it… is romantic because it subverts all the usual romance tropes. It dismisses the trappings of love as old and boring and dumb (except sometimes, sometimes transcendental), the charts and facts and figures of how you’re supposed to go, and it’s a little silly and tongue-in-cheek, but ultimately it’s about-‘I love it when you read/sing to me, you could read/sing me anything’. It’s that sheer *joy* in being with the other person, the comfort and ease in that. And I love that. That rings really, really true to me. It makes my heart ache in a good way.
And you know how I feel about Might Tell You Tonight. For the phrase ‘burrow like a sparrow’ if nothing else.
2, 9, 27, 41, 48
2. Have you ever been deeply in love?
She asks, as though I am not ARSE OVER TIT IN LOVE with you at this very moment, you goof
*whispers* Srsly tho, I am so in love with this lady. I have never been in love before, and it is strange and overwhelming and also THE MOST AMAZING. What a feeling.
9. What’s the most important part of a relationship?
I am not actually sure whether this is asking after the most important thing to make a relationship work, or, like… the best bit of the relationship? I will attempt to answer both! It feels like such a cliché to say communication? But seriously, communication. An environment where you’re not afraid to talk about things or bring things up, even if they’re potentially difficult or scary, or it feels like you’d be ruining a mood, just makes- *everything* so much better. Not just the Srs Bsns, but everything! The silliness, the sex, the bouncing ideas around and conversation. It’s like being able to breathe. And it feels… confident. Having that comfortable open communication means that you feel able to take things on, to go places together, and that is awesome.
As far as the latter interpretation of that question? HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO ANSWER THAT I ASK YOU. There are too many amazing bits!
27. If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?
Hmm. In high school, certainly I would tell myself that being single was no reflection on myself, that it had nothing to do with me that my friends were constantly dating and I never was. In general, I’d tell myself-not to make decisions based on the assumption that feelings are *going* to develop if they’re not already there. Even if I think it’s ~logical~ that I should develop romantic or sexual feelings for someone; that is not actually how that works. You can be flattered by attention, you can love someone as a friend, but that doesn’t mean that you should assume anything else *will* develop. You end up trying to force those feelings, and nothing good comes out of that.
41. What’s your imagination of a “perfect date”?
Wellllllll we came pretty close to one, didn’t we, with our day at the aquarium, followed by delicious gelato and a gooooooorgeous dinner out and getting squiffy on fancy cocktails. That was a pretty excellent date. I think a day out hiking somewhere gorgeous and secluded, and you could laugh at me while I climb and clamber all over everything that’s climb-or-clamberable and a cool lake where we could go skinny dipping and then dry off in a comfortably warm breeze would be a marvellous date. Or one day when we finally get to go see IAMX together, and can get just FUCKED UP on the energy of their shows. That’d be pretty great. Or, ooh, there’s a really good used bookstore I’m gonna have to take you to in Minneapolis, we can have a fun date there. Ooh! There’s a tapas and tequila place right next door; we can do margaritas and then go explore the bookstore. DATE. IT’S GONNA HAPPEN
48. What’s your favorite love song?
*grins* You know, Stephin Merrett says he doesn’t understand why people play The Book of Love at weddings, but the thing I love about it is that it… is romantic because it subverts all the usual romance tropes. It dismisses the trappings of love as old and boring and dumb (except sometimes, sometimes transcendental), the charts and facts and figures of how you’re supposed to go, and it’s a little silly and tongue-in-cheek, but ultimately it’s about-‘I love it when you read/sing to me, you could read/sing me anything’. It’s that sheer *joy* in being with the other person, the comfort and ease in that. And I love that. That rings really, really true to me. It makes my heart ache in a good way.
And you know how I feel about Might Tell You Tonight. For the phrase ‘burrow like a sparrow’ if nothing else.