3. In which house would the people who know you best put you? As they have known me a long time, they generally tell me I used to be a Ravenclaw but that I have grown out of it as I mature. They say that how I experience the world, my goals and my determination make me a Slytherin. I have used my skills in manipulation since I was a child - I needed to. My family was one crazy place of strong powerful unbending personalities, which can lead to loud confrontations where neither party is willing to back down. And every time, I ended up being the one they had to go to. And I knew the situation, but the only way to diffuse it was through leaving out what needed to be, trimming other people’s words into more acceptable versions, explaining what was meant behind the words (if any family is bad at saying what they actually mean all the time, it’s mine). When I first learned to be social (late bloomer for that, books had been my best friends), I was at first glad to simply be in a group, even though it was about fifty people and there were many I straight disliked. Yet I got along because I could, but that taught me to be more selective and focused on what was good for me. And as I became more selective, my experience in life became better because I became happier and more successful at seeing and finding what I wanted. I have my ambitions in life, and as I embraced my goals, pushed for success and did what was necessary, I became more successful and enjoyed the results. I felt like I got what I deserved.
When I begin the process of making friends, I only select those with potential to fit what I want and get along with best. I seek my goals wholeheartedly, unabashedly doing what is best for my life and my goals, even though that means many people have had to learn to see a lot less of me. And those who know me best have seen that transition - from the nerdy girl who just wants to find some friends to the driven successful woman who picks her friends and her life, and is in control of it.
4. What traits do you value in other people? Essentially, I look for people who excel at whatever they do, because that makes them useful in whatever way we are connected. Someone in service needs to be efficient and knowledgeable in what s/he is doing, so as not to waste my time. If we are in a meeting together, they need to be on time, know what it is about, not waste time on extraneous comments, and help make it a productive meeting. And no matter what, s/he should not be a bitch. Confidence is great, sure, perhaps even a bit of cockiness, but bitchiness is a no. I have already answered what I look for in a friend in my appeal post, and if they are not on that track, they are simply strangers or acquaintances, the latter for which I obviously value the potential to become a friend.
When I begin the process of making friends, I only select those with potential to fit what I want and get along with best. I seek my goals wholeheartedly, unabashedly doing what is best for my life and my goals, even though that means many people have had to learn to see a lot less of me. And those who know me best have seen that transition - from the nerdy girl who just wants to find some friends to the driven successful woman who picks her friends and her life, and is in control of it.
4. What traits do you value in other people? Essentially, I look for people who excel at whatever they do, because that makes them useful in whatever way we are connected. Someone in service needs to be efficient and knowledgeable in what s/he is doing, so as not to waste my time. If we are in a meeting together, they need to be on time, know what it is about, not waste time on extraneous comments, and help make it a productive meeting. And no matter what, s/he should not be a bitch. Confidence is great, sure, perhaps even a bit of cockiness, but bitchiness is a no. I have already answered what I look for in a friend in my appeal post, and if they are not on that track, they are simply strangers or acquaintances, the latter for which I obviously value the potential to become a friend.
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