Monday I went back to the Cardiologist. (3rd time now) My Mother drove from 2 hours away to go with my husband and I. It was, the hardest Doctor visit I've ever had
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(hugs) I hope everything goes wonderfully! Often having the birth that doesn't go like you most wanted really does turn out okay and can have its own sort of beauty to it (though I understand how disappointing it can be too if you want the birth to go one way and the doctors or midwives are saying it should go another...)
Agreed. When I think back about my c-section I am actually thankful that I was able to know at 20 weeks that I'd be having one, as opposed to on the day of the birth, possibly after laboring and allowing my tumor to cause internal damage. My c-sect experience is sooo different than my friends who had to have emergency ones. The ability to know and plan and be ok with what happens is helpful. Take it easy and focus on how you can make things amazing given your situation... it is possible even if it isn't what you originally wanted.
That is a good point. At least I now have time to mentally prepare for what has to be done. And though I don't agree with inducing labor (had to do it as an emergency with my first) It is sort of nice to just know when I'm giving birth instead of all the waiting. Or worrying my water will break at an awful time/place! I'm sorry to hear you had a tumor with yours. Was it pre-existing, or found while you were pregnant?
They found it while I was pregnant. I had it removed a year after birth (it was not malignant). But it was IN the birth canal and prevented labor entirely. My water broke at 35 weeks and I sat in the hospital for a week hoping some kind of labor would start (even with a c-sect, it's nice to have some labor-ready hormones and the like) but no dice. It was a stressful and complicated surgery combined with my epidural not taking well, but because it was all planned out and I was mentally ready, it was totally fine. I was able to negotiate things I wouldn't have in an emergency situation (music, having someone come in with me when my DH left with the baby, not having my arms strapped down, etc.). I had to fight for these things but with time and research on my side, I won them and my birth was something I have fond memories of despite not-so-great situations
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Oh wow. So, maybe baby saved your life in the end huh? :) My Mom pointed that out to me. With my son (who's now almost 8) they found abnormal cells on my cervix. But they couldn't do anything about it until Jonah was born. Turns out I had pre-cancerous cells, I had to have them biopsied. Which, if I hadn't gotten pregnant, those cells would have turned cancerous, because I had no insurance and I didn't go to the Doctor unless I thought I was dying. You know. Now with this one, they're finding this big heart problem. Never would have been found, nor my high Blood Pressure had I not gotten pregnant. My babies must be my angels. :)
Anyway, I can't believe you had to sit in the Hospital for a week. AFTER your water broke? How is that even possible? Isn't there a huge risk of infection and stress on the baby after the water breaks if it doesn't come out soon?
There is a risk of infection. And they wanted to give me steroids and do strep tests, etc. so we'd be ready. Eventually the risk of infection outweighed the benefits of letting him cook any longer and they scheduled the surgery. I remember them saying the first night that 90% of women go into labor within 24 hours of their water breaking. By the time we had hit 99% at the end of the week they were kind of like "Well, we don't think it's going to happen." I think the tumor made it physically impossible for me to dilate and my hormones followed suit and didn't even try
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I had just about everything go wrong that could with the whole epidural thing. I only tell you this because even with all of that, I was totally fine. The hydraulic bed was broken and I had to get up on this 1950's foot-pump thing. The nurse had to help me and it was embarrassing. I had a spinal and an epidural. One of them - I think it was the spinal - hit a nerve weird in my back on insertion. I have a pretty high pain tolerance and it didn't hurt much at all but I just knew something wasn't right. It wasn't unbearable pain, just felt pinchy in a wrong way. I spoke up and they started over. Second time it was fine, I felt nothing at all
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I get what you're saying with at least knowing I'm going to have to have the Epidural. But knowing it just fills me with more questions. Like how do I know this is the best thing to do? Should I really trust my OB?
And yeah, I can't really speak to what it is like to just have an epidural and be in labor... someone else here might be able to though. If it is similar to having a spinal, you can't really feel anything but you can feel when someone moves your leg or pulls on you or something, which probably won't be an issue for you. You are just numb. The spinal may be more intense though. I remember them telling me that I might feel pressure on my chest or like I couldn't breathe but that it isn't real, it's just the spinal making me not feel what is going on because I am laying flat. But I didn't feel those things anyway. I just have memories of being cold and vaguely being able to tell that someone was moving my legs around for me. Kind of weird actually. Like you are invincible but also immobile.
Often having the birth that doesn't go like you most wanted really does turn out okay and can have its own sort of beauty to it (though I understand how disappointing it can be too if you want the birth to go one way and the doctors or midwives are saying it should go another...)
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I'm sorry to hear you had a tumor with yours. Was it pre-existing, or found while you were pregnant?
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Now with this one, they're finding this big heart problem. Never would have been found, nor my high Blood Pressure had I not gotten pregnant.
My babies must be my angels. :)
Anyway, I can't believe you had to sit in the Hospital for a week. AFTER your water broke? How is that even possible? Isn't there a huge risk of infection and stress on the baby after the water breaks if it doesn't come out soon?
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