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[heyitsbeej]

I was teasing Kevin in the car on the way to school this morning - we were talking about plans when he's a grown-up.:.

Me:  Remember, Kev, it’s already planned that you’re going to marry M (Fresh Squeezed’s daughter).

Kev:  Mommm!  For the last time, I am not going to marry M!  Don’t you remember my plan?  When I grow up, I’m going to move to China

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[ginko72]

Hmmm,... You're right that assuming divorce is a bit sad. But, you can likely write that off as lack of context and experience. As hellooo_darlin says, knowing that you can leave a relationship when it isn't fulfilling your needs is also a powerful lesson.

Given my parent's sterling example of being together since 8th grade and seemingly never arguing at all, I learned that relationships should just work. And that the chief conflict resolution strategy is to let your partner have their way. After a long, painful, and costly relationship/marriage built on those principles, I got the heck out. Since then I've grown up quite a bit and found a partner who is a better communicator and with whom I can build a balanced relationship.

My brother, it turns out, made many of the same bad choices in choosing a partner that I did. Except, he's married and has two kids. He should really get out, but it's complicated and he still has hope. When that hope evaporates, he'll come to his senses and find someone that will make a good partner.

Anyhow, you're building a good relationship with Mr. Spectacular (or so it seems from this side of the LJ), that is a good lesson. Hopefully he'll learn to look around and really find a good match that you can work things out with rather than sticking to something that isn't working.

Cheers!