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"many of us unconsciously (sometimes even consciously) create roles for ourselves that fit the scripts or expectations of those in our immediate sphere. in a way, we're all casting directors in the drama of life, and we choose people to fill certain roles in our individual dramas: the mean-spirited ex, the saintly friend, the problematic child, the eccentric parent, the loopy neighbour. when we make changes to ourselves, we inadvertently force those around us to rewrite their scripts. either they make the necessary adjustments, or they write us out. for instance, if you have a zany, glamorous, jet-setting friend who suddenly announces she's becoming a nun, how will your friend's new persona fit into your life and the circle of characters you have created? suddenly, that friend may no longer hold much appeal for you, because it was really her glittery aura, her larger-than-life drama, that attracted you." - jane christmas, "the peele project"