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I'm still very concerned about finding a girlfriend. The pickings seem pretty slim at work, so I think that's not an option, and the pickings at the local girlfriend store seem pretty slim, so that's probably not an option either. My image consultant says I should go to bars to meet people. I'm not a big bar person, but I have been to bars a few times and noticed that nearly everyone is there with friends most people aren't too interested in interacting with other people. Some people do want to interact with other people, but not in a particularly useful way. For example, my sister likes to go to bars with her friends, get hit on by guys, then tease the guys and make fun of them.
My image consultant recommended I hang out in bars. She seemed to indicate that she has made some "friends" at bars that she claimed to still keep in touch with, but never met a boyfriend this way. I can verify that another female friend of mine has made numerous friends at bars, but they all seem to be male, and she's complained that they all keep trying to get into her pants. I suspect the real lesson here is that attractive women don't have much trouble finding male "friends" in a bar. I don't recall anybody else having made friends in bars. (Also, I think the latter friend said she used to hang out in bars nearly every night, which is really, really not how I want to spend my time. I don't actually like bars at all.)
My best idea was to hang out at coffee shops whenever I felt like getting out. I'm not too optimistic though. How many couples discover each other at coffee shops? I don't think I've ever heard of one. It's a setting that is conducive to minding one's own business. I think Thaad has met people this way, but I think she used to go every night and likes chatting with strangers. I mean, I know that's the goal, but I think it helps a lot if you intrinsically enjoy chatting up strangers. I don't really. I like talking about interesting things like new ideas I've never heard before. I don't so much like chatting about favorite colors or how some organizations are corrupt, even if doing so with a brand new face. New ideas, yes. Old ideas, even from a new person, no.
My image consultant recommended I hang out in bars. She seemed to indicate that she has made some "friends" at bars that she claimed to still keep in touch with, but never met a boyfriend this way. I can verify that another female friend of mine has made numerous friends at bars, but they all seem to be male, and she's complained that they all keep trying to get into her pants. I suspect the real lesson here is that attractive women don't have much trouble finding male "friends" in a bar. I don't recall anybody else having made friends in bars. (Also, I think the latter friend said she used to hang out in bars nearly every night, which is really, really not how I want to spend my time. I don't actually like bars at all.)
My best idea was to hang out at coffee shops whenever I felt like getting out. I'm not too optimistic though. How many couples discover each other at coffee shops? I don't think I've ever heard of one. It's a setting that is conducive to minding one's own business. I think Thaad has met people this way, but I think she used to go every night and likes chatting with strangers. I mean, I know that's the goal, but I think it helps a lot if you intrinsically enjoy chatting up strangers. I don't really. I like talking about interesting things like new ideas I've never heard before. I don't so much like chatting about favorite colors or how some organizations are corrupt, even if doing so with a brand new face. New ideas, yes. Old ideas, even from a new person, no.