Rule Number Seven[2a/10]
anonymous
April 1 2010, 08:39:22 UTC
Ara began another typical day in her oh-so-normal suburban life. The only variation being that Peter had tried to play sick because he’d not finished a project or perhaps stayed up all night playing video games (she was unsure which was the reason but knew her son well enough to know it was one of the two). As she sat on the couch with her computer on her lap she began to do her work by reading through the emails. One though stood out far more than any of the others did though, and much more so then many others she had answered in a long time.
A woman had written her:
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my husband no longer loves me. The two of us are so distant from one another, to me it seems like all that matters to him is work, and well with me always driving the kids from place to place and taking care of our home and children I’m afraid that I’ve been running out of ways to show him that I need him still (you know in that way). The worst thing about the distance that’s grown between the two of us is how lonely I feel. Back when we were closer, I felt so beautiful, I felt like I was the most important thing not only in his world but in the whole world. I’ve aged quite a bit, I can see the wrinkles on my face forming, I know I’m not as thin… and the fact that he seems to care about me less as I get older makes me feel like I’ just not important to him anymore. Sometimes I feel like I could runaway and never look back.
I must confess though that there is something that seems to hold me back from leaving my life behind. There is a man who I’ve known for just a short while now, but he’s so nice to me, and says things that make me feel like the young beautiful woman I once was. The thing is I’ve been having fantasies about an affair with him, and I have a feeling if I brought it up he would say yes without hesitation.
My question is: should I cheat on my husband with this man who makes me feel good about myself? Or should I just go on living my life the way that I have been?
Ara honestly could relate to being lonely, but an affair? She bit her lip rereading what was written, there were plenty of times that she had felt alone, after all Francis was away so often. She placed a hand to the laugh lines that had formed on her face, she’d aged rather well, despite being forty now she could pass for still being in her early to mid thirties-but Francis had aged well too, he looked younger than he was and he was five years older than her. Unlike many women her waistline and hips hadn’t suffered too much, sure she couldn’t fit the jeans she’d worn twenty years ago, but it wasn’t like she’d ballooned or anything. But this woman was talking about adultery. That was something you just shouldn’t think about let alone do-yet Ara could still sympathies with this writer, she saw where the desire came from and knew how easy it would be for her too-she quickly shook her head and typed up a reply to the emailer’s question.
Everyone feels lonely sometimes. That’s just a natural part of being alive. We’ve all also have wondered about what it would be like to be with another person, someone different then our significant other. But just because we have these feelings and someone who is willing to participate in acting them out with us doesn’t mean we should follow through with these urges and desires. I too am a married woman, and I like all married women, including yourself took certain vows as part of becoming a married women. It’s our duty to honor and uphold those vows, one of them being to be committed to our husbands no matter what. My advice is simple, don’t follow through with your urges to have an affair.
I would suggest that apart from not acting on your desire to be with this other man, you shouldn’t continue to live your life the way that you have been. I advise that you find an activity that you enjoy to help with the tension of being a wife (perhaps a healthy hobby) and talk with your husband about the way that you are feeling about your relationship. Perhaps the two of you can take a trip together and reignite the flames that made you two fall in love in the first place.
A woman had written her:
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my husband no longer loves me. The two of us are so distant from one another, to me it seems like all that matters to him is work, and well with me always driving the kids from place to place and taking care of our home and children I’m afraid that I’ve been running out of ways to show him that I need him still (you know in that way). The worst thing about the distance that’s grown between the two of us is how lonely I feel. Back when we were closer, I felt so beautiful, I felt like I was the most important thing not only in his world but in the whole world. I’ve aged quite a bit, I can see the wrinkles on my face forming, I know I’m not as thin… and the fact that he seems to care about me less as I get older makes me feel like I’ just not important to him anymore. Sometimes I feel like I could runaway and never look back.
I must confess though that there is something that seems to hold me back from leaving my life behind. There is a man who I’ve known for just a short while now, but he’s so nice to me, and says things that make me feel like the young beautiful woman I once was. The thing is I’ve been having fantasies about an affair with him, and I have a feeling if I brought it up he would say yes without hesitation.
My question is: should I cheat on my husband with this man who makes me feel good about myself? Or should I just go on living my life the way that I have been?
Ara honestly could relate to being lonely, but an affair? She bit her lip rereading what was written, there were plenty of times that she had felt alone, after all Francis was away so often. She placed a hand to the laugh lines that had formed on her face, she’d aged rather well, despite being forty now she could pass for still being in her early to mid thirties-but Francis had aged well too, he looked younger than he was and he was five years older than her. Unlike many women her waistline and hips hadn’t suffered too much, sure she couldn’t fit the jeans she’d worn twenty years ago, but it wasn’t like she’d ballooned or anything. But this woman was talking about adultery. That was something you just shouldn’t think about let alone do-yet Ara could still sympathies with this writer, she saw where the desire came from and knew how easy it would be for her too-she quickly shook her head and typed up a reply to the emailer’s question.
Everyone feels lonely sometimes. That’s just a natural part of being alive. We’ve all also have wondered about what it would be like to be with another person, someone different then our significant other. But just because we have these feelings and someone who is willing to participate in acting them out with us doesn’t mean we should follow through with these urges and desires. I too am a married woman, and I like all married women, including yourself took certain vows as part of becoming a married women. It’s our duty to honor and uphold those vows, one of them being to be committed to our husbands no matter what. My advice is simple, don’t follow through with your urges to have an affair.
I would suggest that apart from not acting on your desire to be with this other man, you shouldn’t continue to live your life the way that you have been. I advise that you find an activity that you enjoy to help with the tension of being a wife (perhaps a healthy hobby) and talk with your husband about the way that you are feeling about your relationship. Perhaps the two of you can take a trip together and reignite the flames that made you two fall in love in the first place.
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