Chels- you can do anything. I don't mean that in an inspirational way- I mean that literally. "Anything" might take a huge amount of effort to get there from where you are now, but it's still attainable. I'm pretty sure the majority of people on this planet don't really believe this, and that's exactly why they'll never attain it. It's still about the truest truth I've come across- you can do anything. So my 2 cents would be- eliminate all distractions from your life (movies, tv, whatever else you turn to during your free time) and just start letting your mind wander, no pressure, back to 20 years ago, and think about what it is you loved and wanted to do before "reality" shot it down. Then get back to chasing that goal, regardless of how impossible it seems. You're not going to be happy any other way. Comfortable, maybe, but not happy. A tattoo might provide a temporary thrill of change, but I bet there's something much deeper inside you that'll provide a longer-lasting thrill of being alive.... but only if you believe it's possible
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20 yrs ago there really wasn't anything I wanted to do before 'reality' set in. I was 21yrs old having to take care of my Manic-Depressive Mother - period. Only thing I had to do was get a good paying job so we'd have a roof over our heads. No one seems to understand that whilst growing up I had NO ONE - friends nor family - who really encouraged me to do anything. All I've ever known is Work,Work & Work. You can't understand that because you had a supportive,caring,loving family who took an interest in you as a person. Mine never did. I KNOW there are millions of people in this world over the centuries who came from nothing & made something of themselves, and that's wonderful. More power to them. But as for me? I'm a Cube wage slave & that's all I'm good for. I was never given a 'dream' to look forward to by anyone. I'm not playing the violin here, but stating facts. So when you say 'anything', yes, for MANY people it CAN be achieved. As for me? Nope.
It's tough to respond to a point of view like this. I completely understand why you see things this way, and I agree with you that my family background definitely gave me the support to achieve things, and I'm sure that, were I born into your situation, I wouldn't be spouting such a positive "go get 'em" vibe. You've never been given a reason to think life entails anything but what it's become, so why would you agree with what I'm saying? However, all you've pointed it out is why you are where you are, not why it can't be different in the future. Impossible and "not very good odds" are two different things. I wish you could see things from where I stand, because you're an intelligent and vibrant person with a lot going for you, including a really devoted husband willing to offer the support and encouragement you never got. I understand if you don't see it that way, and if the road seems so distant that it becomes discouraging before you even start. I wish I could do something about that, but all I can say, instead, is that even for
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