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Mar 14, 2009 02:09

A pertinent question for current events; when do you stop trusting someone's word? What merit is reputation, versus personal experience?

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find_my_truth March 14 2009, 10:23:57 UTC

It depends on who you're talking about really.

As for merit... Why would you ever trust someone some else TELLS you you should?

heir_of_fire March 14 2009, 10:29:29 UTC

What does it depend on?

That's another issue; how much do you trust anyone's word in general? About their own experience, about what they've heard, about their thoughts.

Reputation is formed by what people say about the things they experience, reputation can be ruined by lies, but i can be bolstered by lies as well.

At the same time people take reputation very seriously. A bad reputation isn't going to get you far, and a good one will open doors.

find_my_truth March 14 2009, 10:45:40 UTC

I'll use my own experiances for a basis here. Let's say I have two friends. One is a polite, kind young woman. The other is a rash, but good hearted young man. Both do the same thing to me: Attack me when I wasn't looking.

I would trust the young man more afterwards, because sudden, and illogical actions are common for him. He thinks on instinct instead of REALLY thinking.

While the woman, if she attacked me, probably thought it through, planned it. Do you understand?

As for the second... reputation is important. It can open doors and give you an idea of how to react to certain people. But that's not trust. It's NEVER trust.

heir_of_fire March 14 2009, 10:57:59 UTC

The first part is fair enough. Knowing an attack on you was planned rather than impulsive makes a difference.

But reputation affects opinion, and trust. Someone with a reputation as a double-crosser will never be immediately met with open arms or without suspicion. Someone with a reputation for honesty is more likely to be asked to judge and arbitrate, to be given trust more easily.

It doesn't matter if the reputation is based on facts.

find_my_truth March 14 2009, 11:05:06 UTC

Society-wise, I guess you're correct. But I don't think that's what you meant in your entry, is it?

Can I ask you something personal, without insulting you?

heir_of_fire March 14 2009, 11:14:12 UTC

You're right, I was asking on a more personal level.

You can ask, I probably won't be insulted.

find_my_truth March 14 2009, 11:19:17 UTC

Have you ever trusted someone? Completely and totally? Enough to know that person or persons are at your back no matter what? Outside of family?

heir_of_fire March 14 2009, 11:25:11 UTC

No.

find_my_truth March 14 2009, 11:37:33 UTC

...then I guess I can't explain what I mean. I'm not good with words.

Just have faith that it is possible. You just have to find it.

heir_of_fire March 14 2009, 11:43:30 UTC

I've seen that kind of faith before. I just don't think you can ever know anyone as well as you think you do, you can't trust anyone completely. No even family.

find_my_truth March 14 2009, 11:58:02 UTC

Maybe you're right. But I do... I wonder if that makes me a fool?

heir_of_fire March 14 2009, 12:07:07 UTC

Most people put foolish faith and trust in their bonds. It's human nature to seek such connections.

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