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[heidi8]

I admit that I haven't read all of the posts from Micheka aka Laura aka Purple Popple aka Partly Bouncy, but I've read enough to know that people are going to have questions.

But more than that, it seems from Michela's account that various users of the Sugarquill and Gryffindor Tower forums/sites have been hearing lies about me for years. There's

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[hedwig_snowy]

I am amazed how little people understand despite reading the words right in front of them. It didn't seem odd to anyone that she justified her dislike for you by posting a rumor because it's a given in the minds of some people who then spread it? Gee, been on the internet long folks?

Actually, while not being that much interested in internet wanks, I have wondered why you weren't defending yourself as much a I might have. I realize it's a waste of time with most of these people to even try to explain things to them. Nuance and facts have no place in their world.

I did read someone's comments awhile back about how it doesn't help to have your friends defend you in these situations. There is a point to that. It's probably best to explain your side and they'll either believe it not. You don't have to convince some at all. You'll never convince some. It's those that have no stake in these type of events that might actually take the time to listen and could possibly be persuaded to see your side.

However, they also shouldn't assume that lies and insults, as opposed to actually stating facts, will fly. This ain't B_P.

*That was as polite as I could write that* ;)

[heidi8]

The reason I haven't been defending myself this summer as things have been posted attacking me has been, in large part, because I wasn't around for a really long time. When the msscribe stuff was heating up, I was off to Maine for a bar mitzvah and from that day through the first week of August, I was traveling for all but 10 days. I couldn't keep up with reading or with responding.
I'd planned to catch up when I got back in August, but then Brian - my sister's husband - had a seizure and heard attack on July 31 - the same day we flew home from LA. The next night I went back to LA, and he died two days later, so the weeks after that were spent at the funeral, sitting shivah, and helping my sister pick up the pieces of her life. When she went back to LA a week ago to pack to move, a window opened in my life for the first time since early June. Liz comes back in a week and I don't know what will happen then in terms of time, but at least I'll be "local" more than I was in june/july.

[hedwig_snowy]

I wonder how your sister would feel about your constant mentioning of the death of her husband when you're attacked. It's such a transparent attempt to gain sympathy.

[hedwig_snowy]

Ah, the absence of empathy, thy name is fandom. Get a life eh? And, you just used the same rationale that you're assuming of someone else. How clever.