Dazed and Confused Mom...
To summarize: being a parent is hell. I have two wonderful kids...sometimes. Both are extreme opposites. I am constantly trying to keep things fair, but in so doing, I only get more complaints all around. When I try to impose discipline to either one, it's not always enough to suit the other kid. It also convenient, that all past infractions of their own, are entirely forgotten when the other is let out of a punishment. I don't know why I do what I do. All I can say is that I try to be a fair as possible. I know it's impossible to keep everyone happy at the same time, but being the naive soul that I am, I try.
To answer your questions Colleen...I have one of my own. Why is it that you don't hold yourself to the same standards that you feel I should hold Daniel to? When we have disagreements you also say mean, horrible, spur-of-the-moment things, just like Dan. I don't see a difference. When I grounded you for a week, when you were talking back and yelling at me, I let you off. I mentioned this to you, and you just say, Well, you overreacted. True, but the point is that I let you both off punishments from time to time. The biggest difference is that you are older and a bit more mature at this stage (being three years between you both) and you don't get into trouble as often. Which could, possibly, be distorting your view as to when you get into trouble as opposed to Dan getting in trouble. Maybe you could think about that? Love you.
To answer your questions Colleen...I have one of my own. Why is it that you don't hold yourself to the same standards that you feel I should hold Daniel to? When we have disagreements you also say mean, horrible, spur-of-the-moment things, just like Dan. I don't see a difference. When I grounded you for a week, when you were talking back and yelling at me, I let you off. I mentioned this to you, and you just say, Well, you overreacted. True, but the point is that I let you both off punishments from time to time. The biggest difference is that you are older and a bit more mature at this stage (being three years between you both) and you don't get into trouble as often. Which could, possibly, be distorting your view as to when you get into trouble as opposed to Dan getting in trouble. Maybe you could think about that? Love you.