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Apr 02, 2007 09:10

I need a lot more patience.

mommy wants a drink, potty training

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cardinalximinez April 2 2007, 13:49:08 UTC
I hope you don't take this question the wrong way, but is there a reason that you are so gung ho about getting the potty training done right now?

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heathrow April 2 2007, 13:51:59 UTC
No, it's an absolutely fair question.

It's Spring Break this week for Amelia's preschool. I figured that since we have very little planned, why not begin now? She's been showing some interest in her potty on and off for a while now. I figure that if I wait for her to go, "Mommy, I'm all done with diapers. I'd like my Dora panties now," it'll be uh...never.

She's 3 years old now. Grandparents are pushing me. In addition, we have the added deadline of beginning of September to have her potty trained or she can't go back to preschool. I figure giving us a few months to get this right would help.

So now, we are in Pull-Ups and a 30 minute timer going off constantly. Katie's being extra clingy, which is hard.

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cardinalximinez April 2 2007, 14:49:22 UTC
Yeah, can't really argue with that...

It really does sound like she's not quite ready yet. And, you know, she just might decide one day to go for it - it's practically what Anna did. Then again, Anna has a habit of taking her time to do something, then when she starts, just doing it right off the bat. So maybe not such a good counterpoint.

I can't even give you any advice because we got so lucky. (And believe me, it was luck.)

Oh, maybe one thing: is she using a potty seat, or an adapter on a grown-up toilet? Maybe, maybe, try the other one that you're not trying now. Anna hated the potty seat, and when she started, she wanted to be like Mommy and Daddy, and use the regular toilet....

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heathrow April 2 2007, 14:54:57 UTC
We have both the child-sized potty and a toilet seat for the big toilet. She uses both, but seems to prefer the big toilet. So we'll go that way.

I hear you about her not being quite ready, but she's consistently shown that she needs a gentle push to get things going.

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cardinalximinez April 2 2007, 15:03:57 UTC
Good luck!

Unfortunately, the harder you push Anna, the harder she pushes back. Contrary little bug she is.

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fizzgig_bites April 2 2007, 14:52:49 UTC
Pull-Ups are okay but they are too much like diapers. They feel like diapers to a kid and they will go in them because they don't feel any different. Try going commando or with cotton panties only. There will be accidents but they will learn a lot quicker. If you have tile in your house, that makes it a lot easier. Play in the backyard instead of inside will help with the mess. Also a park with lots of changes of cloths should help.

We did the push to the deadline thing and it totally backfired. It became a control issue and a fight. We backed off and peer pressure won out in the end.

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heathrow April 2 2007, 14:55:48 UTC
We tried starting with cotton panties with vinyl trainers over them. She WIGGED out and begged for diapers. The texture difference was too weird.

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fizzgig_bites April 2 2007, 18:18:31 UTC
Vinyl trainers are brutal on the skin. Have tried without the vinyl? I know the messiness will happen but does she just upset at the cotton alone? Playing outside would be an option.

Just an idea, can she be distracted from the undies? Can you give her something so fun that you can change her while standing and put undies on her while she is playing with the favorite and have her not notice? It worked with Bug but she has ADHD (probably).

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gardenwaltz April 2 2007, 21:25:38 UTC
ah, now I get you. We were afraid of waiting too long too, but when we started, Sylvia was ready and it did not take too long. I will admit that she was younger than 3 and I think it is harder at this point. My fingers are crossed for you.

Also, my neighbor is keeping twins over 3, because the boy has not yet 'graduated' from her special potty training class. Ms Amelia would definitely not be alone if she is delayed in pre-school for that reason.

Push & back off. I see a lot of good info on the SID issue and that is going to be better direct advice than a lot of what I could add. The only advice I can give is to find something that she really really wants and say that she can't have it until she's potty trained. Until she's the locomotive instead of the caboose, it's going to be hard. For Sylvia, the reward was the Hello Kitty panties itself, but I admit we got off easy.

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