This is now
This week, autumn descends. The air is crisp, the bed is cozy, and things are pumpkin flavored. Victoria is 14 weeks old today. And today she was a handful. Wanting to change position or location every 5 minutes, crazy hungry and then spewing milk curds on my lap and down my chest. Giggling and gurgling and soiling a metric ton of diapers. Her new thing is fighting sleep. What a pip.
September 29th, my FMLA runs out and I go back to work full time. It will be nice to double my paycheck again and not have to try ( because it's futile anyway) to get 40 hours of work done in 20. I have new responsibilities at work, supervising two (eventually three) BCBA candidates and creating a curriculum for, teaching, and supervising our RBTs (Registered Behavior Technicians). I'll still have a caseload, so it will be up to me to manage my time, which hasn't always been my strong point. As long as I'm learning and growing, though, I'm happy at work.
On the home front, Victoria will be in a Grammy Day Care three days a week when I go back to full time. Carey's friend Tom has his mom Joan watch his 2 boys, and we're going to throw our little one in the mix. Not sure how the arrangement is going to work, but we're hoping for the best. Carey and I are managing our home life pretty well. Co-parenting is mostly a joy. I made honeydew granitas today. We're gearing up for our next round of family visits- Alec and his new girlfriend, then Carey's mom in September, then my Pop and Tef in October, and then my mom and Jim in November. We still haven't figured out what we're doing for the holidays this year. Carey has come home with me for Christmas every year since 2010, and by all rights it's his turn. I thought I was keeping him happy by going to Minneapolis with him for Thanksgiving and New Years, but he really wants a Christmas with his family. My sister and her family aren't traveling to our family home for Christmas this year, so this could be the year that everything is different. I guess truthfully I'd like to keep things the way they are. But the thought of spending Thanksgiving away from my home town initially gave me the queasies, and I ended up having a great time. This holiday question is a small symptom of the only malady in my marriage with Carey- we are compatible in every way other than geography. Soon our daughter will be at preschool age, and we will have to make a big decision about where we want to settle down and buy a house. I see myself on the east coast, and he has a strong pull toward Minneapolis. We have always worked toward the middle ground in our marriage, and we both want to make the other happy, but on this issue there's really no compromise. That makes it very difficult.
September 29th, my FMLA runs out and I go back to work full time. It will be nice to double my paycheck again and not have to try ( because it's futile anyway) to get 40 hours of work done in 20. I have new responsibilities at work, supervising two (eventually three) BCBA candidates and creating a curriculum for, teaching, and supervising our RBTs (Registered Behavior Technicians). I'll still have a caseload, so it will be up to me to manage my time, which hasn't always been my strong point. As long as I'm learning and growing, though, I'm happy at work.
On the home front, Victoria will be in a Grammy Day Care three days a week when I go back to full time. Carey's friend Tom has his mom Joan watch his 2 boys, and we're going to throw our little one in the mix. Not sure how the arrangement is going to work, but we're hoping for the best. Carey and I are managing our home life pretty well. Co-parenting is mostly a joy. I made honeydew granitas today. We're gearing up for our next round of family visits- Alec and his new girlfriend, then Carey's mom in September, then my Pop and Tef in October, and then my mom and Jim in November. We still haven't figured out what we're doing for the holidays this year. Carey has come home with me for Christmas every year since 2010, and by all rights it's his turn. I thought I was keeping him happy by going to Minneapolis with him for Thanksgiving and New Years, but he really wants a Christmas with his family. My sister and her family aren't traveling to our family home for Christmas this year, so this could be the year that everything is different. I guess truthfully I'd like to keep things the way they are. But the thought of spending Thanksgiving away from my home town initially gave me the queasies, and I ended up having a great time. This holiday question is a small symptom of the only malady in my marriage with Carey- we are compatible in every way other than geography. Soon our daughter will be at preschool age, and we will have to make a big decision about where we want to settle down and buy a house. I see myself on the east coast, and he has a strong pull toward Minneapolis. We have always worked toward the middle ground in our marriage, and we both want to make the other happy, but on this issue there's really no compromise. That makes it very difficult.