Relationboats
Enjoyed watching Twister last night. As much as there are quite a few things in it that are a bit... impossible, I like the story, and get caught up in the excitment pretty easily. What a cool job that would be! I loved all the characters too.
Had a discussion with Shan and a few of her friends on breakups yesterday. We came to a consensus that the best way to get over someone is to get rid of pictures and memorabelia associated with them, at least in the bedroom. Then we were talking about giving things back after a breakup, like jewlery, or prized posessions. What do you owe them? If you stay friends do you owe them more than if they cut out of of their lives? What happens if *you* are the one to cut them out of your life, do you have no moral obligation to give stuff back? Then we got onto the topic of how fast to move on, and the opinions differed greatly. I think as long as you take stock of your emotions and be conciously aware of watching for rebound relationships, it is all good. Shan and her friend figured that waiting 1/3 of how long the relationship was before starting to date again is a good preventative measure. One of her friends gives it a year between boyfriends, no matter how long the relationship was.
It was a fun talk. We basically all agreed that blundering between relationships, and making bad decisions, was a fact of life for people. Especially people with not a lot of breakup experiance. Amusingly enough, I had the second least experiance in that department overall. A lot of my answers were tempered with trying to be fair, but I had to conceed to the girls that it was a lot easier to be heartless in the short term anyways. One of the girls made me laugh by saying if you are nice to your ex's it promotes on-again-off-again relationships, and getting stuck in a rut. I guess it was the way she said it that made me laugh. Though I didn't really agree (though I am starting to see the truth), the girls all said that once the breakup has happened, all promises are null and void, especially ones where the couple promises to be friends. I think they even said *especially* those ones.
Feel free to share views, even annonymously, on any of these issues. I would be interested in more feedback.
Had a discussion with Shan and a few of her friends on breakups yesterday. We came to a consensus that the best way to get over someone is to get rid of pictures and memorabelia associated with them, at least in the bedroom. Then we were talking about giving things back after a breakup, like jewlery, or prized posessions. What do you owe them? If you stay friends do you owe them more than if they cut out of of their lives? What happens if *you* are the one to cut them out of your life, do you have no moral obligation to give stuff back? Then we got onto the topic of how fast to move on, and the opinions differed greatly. I think as long as you take stock of your emotions and be conciously aware of watching for rebound relationships, it is all good. Shan and her friend figured that waiting 1/3 of how long the relationship was before starting to date again is a good preventative measure. One of her friends gives it a year between boyfriends, no matter how long the relationship was.
It was a fun talk. We basically all agreed that blundering between relationships, and making bad decisions, was a fact of life for people. Especially people with not a lot of breakup experiance. Amusingly enough, I had the second least experiance in that department overall. A lot of my answers were tempered with trying to be fair, but I had to conceed to the girls that it was a lot easier to be heartless in the short term anyways. One of the girls made me laugh by saying if you are nice to your ex's it promotes on-again-off-again relationships, and getting stuck in a rut. I guess it was the way she said it that made me laugh. Though I didn't really agree (though I am starting to see the truth), the girls all said that once the breakup has happened, all promises are null and void, especially ones where the couple promises to be friends. I think they even said *especially* those ones.
Feel free to share views, even annonymously, on any of these issues. I would be interested in more feedback.