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I had a dream about a guy I know online. It was odd because i really don't know him all that well, we've never met or anything, just had extensive conversation. But it suprised me, because in the dream i could hear his voice talking to me, saying these things.. like it wasn't romantic or sweet things, it was more like affirmations and love via friendship. But i trusted the voice.
The nice thing about online friendships is this: When meeting someone online, specifically a guy, i don't have to worry about whether or not he's just trying to get laid... saying things to get something. Especially when this person lives practically years away. Like when someone is having a conversation with you online, it simply is because they want to or they are enjoying it. That they want to know these things about you, just for the sake of knowing.
The person i dreamt of is an odd one. A friendship with him, to me, seems like an unlikely combo because he is very rough around the edges, completely upfront and honest (even at the expense of peoples feelings), and he seems real. That's sorta the opposite of me in every way... I am a peace keeper, and I am aware of people's feelings FAR too much. If beating around the bush means I won't hurt you, i am more likely to do that. (Although admittedly this isn't always the best approach)
The dream was sorta different than most dreams i'd have about a guy who was on my mind. It wasn't romantic in any sort. (Which i Admit was strange but refreshing) It really was more like... there he was caring for me, cheering me on, wanting what's best for me.
I know phrases like 'How are you?' & 'What's up?' are entirely overused these days, and can be used more as an opener to a conversation then an actual question, but i really enjoy when someone Asks how i am and wait for the answer, or seem genuinely concerned and curious. (And then to continue by commenting on my response is lovely) This mystery person online usually does that. It makes me feel like he really IS wondering how i am doing, and to me that is friendship.
Some people might argue that you can't have a real frienship online because in all reality you don't REALLY know the person. But I say you are wrong. Should online friends cover your entire circle of friends? No. But all a frienship is really, is two people getting to know eachother, being there for one another, and spending time together. And I can assure anyone who does not spend a lot of time online, that all three can occur often. =)
Anyways, If you read this, thanks for haunting my dreams mister ;)I really enjoy having you in my life. Who knows how long we'll actually know eachother but i'm happy for the time being ;D. I hope you feel comfortable talking about problems you're having cuz i know i'm constantly QQing to you about mine ;D
Anyways, it's blizzardy out! The icicles are growing sideways! Time for some hot cocoa and a good book ;)
The nice thing about online friendships is this: When meeting someone online, specifically a guy, i don't have to worry about whether or not he's just trying to get laid... saying things to get something. Especially when this person lives practically years away. Like when someone is having a conversation with you online, it simply is because they want to or they are enjoying it. That they want to know these things about you, just for the sake of knowing.
The person i dreamt of is an odd one. A friendship with him, to me, seems like an unlikely combo because he is very rough around the edges, completely upfront and honest (even at the expense of peoples feelings), and he seems real. That's sorta the opposite of me in every way... I am a peace keeper, and I am aware of people's feelings FAR too much. If beating around the bush means I won't hurt you, i am more likely to do that. (Although admittedly this isn't always the best approach)
The dream was sorta different than most dreams i'd have about a guy who was on my mind. It wasn't romantic in any sort. (Which i Admit was strange but refreshing) It really was more like... there he was caring for me, cheering me on, wanting what's best for me.
I know phrases like 'How are you?' & 'What's up?' are entirely overused these days, and can be used more as an opener to a conversation then an actual question, but i really enjoy when someone Asks how i am and wait for the answer, or seem genuinely concerned and curious. (And then to continue by commenting on my response is lovely) This mystery person online usually does that. It makes me feel like he really IS wondering how i am doing, and to me that is friendship.
Some people might argue that you can't have a real frienship online because in all reality you don't REALLY know the person. But I say you are wrong. Should online friends cover your entire circle of friends? No. But all a frienship is really, is two people getting to know eachother, being there for one another, and spending time together. And I can assure anyone who does not spend a lot of time online, that all three can occur often. =)
Anyways, If you read this, thanks for haunting my dreams mister ;)I really enjoy having you in my life. Who knows how long we'll actually know eachother but i'm happy for the time being ;D. I hope you feel comfortable talking about problems you're having cuz i know i'm constantly QQing to you about mine ;D
Anyways, it's blizzardy out! The icicles are growing sideways! Time for some hot cocoa and a good book ;)