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Isn't it apparent to everyone else yet, that when you become close enough to a person the inevitable argument is going to happen? When you're around a person that much to grow that way, you'll certainly become comfortable enough to have things you don't like about them, or things you will worry about or things you have a problem with. These things do come up, but you know what's great about them? Rather than avoiding conflict and letting these things lie, you talk about them and things get better.
An argument will always be very intense. People will say things they do not mean, people will say things that they may be really thinking. But if you don't, nothing gets solved and the same things seem to peak it's head out again later on. This time, it'll be more intense. Because that little thing you were arguing about, has now grown into a full blown catastrophe. Nothing gets solved this way. Bottling things up is a stupid idea. It doesn't matter if you're scared of conflict, ignoring a problem, any problem, is no solution.
Telling someone to go away, or walking away yourself. Avoiding the situation. Not allowing others to start conflict. Shutting down and agreeing with the other person to end a conflict. All of these don't work. That's not dealing with it, and it never ends. If you really care about the other person, you'll argue with them. Obviously, there is a problem and by bringing up that problem, you show that you, or they, care. Reciprocating the argument to end it, has always been the resolution.
What if every political debate happened this way? One candidate says one thing about the other, and then the other guy walks away. Without defending himself, without dealing with the issue, explaining otherwise. The simple sense that he was accused kind of sucks, but should he just take it and be labeled a baby cannibal? No, that's not fair.
It's simple, people are going to argue. People are going to get angry about things, get frustrated, lose patience, freak out, break down, blow up, you name it. Ignoring that or not letting yourself do so is bad. Nobody can be nice forever, and things will set others off, but everything cools down again. Family, friends, lovers, roommates.
Don't let it keep going until it's too late. Learn to argue. Or you might end up losing something you once really cherished.
An argument will always be very intense. People will say things they do not mean, people will say things that they may be really thinking. But if you don't, nothing gets solved and the same things seem to peak it's head out again later on. This time, it'll be more intense. Because that little thing you were arguing about, has now grown into a full blown catastrophe. Nothing gets solved this way. Bottling things up is a stupid idea. It doesn't matter if you're scared of conflict, ignoring a problem, any problem, is no solution.
Telling someone to go away, or walking away yourself. Avoiding the situation. Not allowing others to start conflict. Shutting down and agreeing with the other person to end a conflict. All of these don't work. That's not dealing with it, and it never ends. If you really care about the other person, you'll argue with them. Obviously, there is a problem and by bringing up that problem, you show that you, or they, care. Reciprocating the argument to end it, has always been the resolution.
What if every political debate happened this way? One candidate says one thing about the other, and then the other guy walks away. Without defending himself, without dealing with the issue, explaining otherwise. The simple sense that he was accused kind of sucks, but should he just take it and be labeled a baby cannibal? No, that's not fair.
It's simple, people are going to argue. People are going to get angry about things, get frustrated, lose patience, freak out, break down, blow up, you name it. Ignoring that or not letting yourself do so is bad. Nobody can be nice forever, and things will set others off, but everything cools down again. Family, friends, lovers, roommates.
Don't let it keep going until it's too late. Learn to argue. Or you might end up losing something you once really cherished.