Trying to avoid the whole mess.
Today I was talking to my friend Jody. She is also Step-mother to D's oldest grand child. She started to tell me how great it's been not dealing with the crap. When D starts going on about her daughter or the kids we've both been telling her that if se isn't going to do anything about it or stand behind us when we do then we just don't want to hear it.
She found something new to gossip and bitch about. Deb, her sister-in-law. My friend Jody doesn't know Deb but I do and she told me what was said. I was pissed. Jim was D's brother and Deb's husband, okay? Well, he died of Cancer about 2 months ago. He had been sick a while, started getting better and got worse very quickly and in a matter of days was gone. The family has turned on Deb and it's ugly. a couple of weeks after the funeral D was going on and on about Deb, saying seh was drinking and smoking pot and how that was no way to deal with loss... I was concerned, so I talked to Deb. I knew she was a left over hippie, she used to smoke weed. I knew that because Jim was a recovering Alcoholic (sober nearly 9 years)she wasn't going to use either heavily. I went to Deb and talked to her and 10 minutes after I got home I was being called a two faced fucking bitch by someone else in the family.
Anyway back to my friend. She was watching her step-daughter's ball game and talking to D. She told her that she will always believe that Deb killed him that she overdosed him on his morphine (while he was in the hospital dying!!!) That she had said and done all kinds of things that I know she hasn't. They were fairly close and when he died they abandoned her, they blamed her. D showed up at the house within days of the funeral with a list of things she wanted. It's crazy! My friend didn't know her or Jim and she knew she couldn't believe D but she was stuck listening and because she did D thinks she has one more person on her side.
I want to go off on her for running her mouth and tell her that is the reason I've been avoiding her but that will just stir the shit. If I don't say anything then it's just me figuring out how to deal with her. If I do then I become the new target and she'll be running her mouth about me. When she gets mad at people that's when she feels justified in stealing and getting credit, cashing checks, in other people's names.
I'm a little calmed down. Thanks for listening.
She found something new to gossip and bitch about. Deb, her sister-in-law. My friend Jody doesn't know Deb but I do and she told me what was said. I was pissed. Jim was D's brother and Deb's husband, okay? Well, he died of Cancer about 2 months ago. He had been sick a while, started getting better and got worse very quickly and in a matter of days was gone. The family has turned on Deb and it's ugly. a couple of weeks after the funeral D was going on and on about Deb, saying seh was drinking and smoking pot and how that was no way to deal with loss... I was concerned, so I talked to Deb. I knew she was a left over hippie, she used to smoke weed. I knew that because Jim was a recovering Alcoholic (sober nearly 9 years)she wasn't going to use either heavily. I went to Deb and talked to her and 10 minutes after I got home I was being called a two faced fucking bitch by someone else in the family.
Anyway back to my friend. She was watching her step-daughter's ball game and talking to D. She told her that she will always believe that Deb killed him that she overdosed him on his morphine (while he was in the hospital dying!!!) That she had said and done all kinds of things that I know she hasn't. They were fairly close and when he died they abandoned her, they blamed her. D showed up at the house within days of the funeral with a list of things she wanted. It's crazy! My friend didn't know her or Jim and she knew she couldn't believe D but she was stuck listening and because she did D thinks she has one more person on her side.
I want to go off on her for running her mouth and tell her that is the reason I've been avoiding her but that will just stir the shit. If I don't say anything then it's just me figuring out how to deal with her. If I do then I become the new target and she'll be running her mouth about me. When she gets mad at people that's when she feels justified in stealing and getting credit, cashing checks, in other people's names.
I'm a little calmed down. Thanks for listening.