Relationships
Your first relationship, must be with your Self. You must first learn to honor and cherish and love your Self.
You must first see your Self as worthy before you can see another as worthy. You must first see your Self as blessed before you can see another as blessed. You must first know your Self to be holy before you can acknowledge holiness in another.
If you put the cart before the horse--as most religions ask you to do--and acknowledge another as holy before you acknowledge yourself, you will one day resent it. If there is one thing none of you can tolerate, it is someone being holier than thou. Yet your religions force you to call others holier than though. And so you do it--for a while. Then you crucify them.
You have crucified (in one way or another) all of My teachers, not just One. And you did so not because they were holier than thou, but because you made them out to be.
My teachers have all come with the same message. Not "I am holier than thou," but "You are as holy as am I."
This message you have not been able to hear; this is the truth you have not been able to accept. And that is why you can never truly, purely, fall in love with another. You have never truly, purely fallen in love with your Self.
"The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see "show up," not what part of another you can capture or hold.
There can be only one purpose for relationships--and for all of life: to be and decide Who You Really Are.
Bless, therefore, every relationship, and hold each as special and formative of Who You Are--and now choose to be.
full post from a great teacher to me is here http://noaimiloa.livejournal.com/25013.html