Smells Like Garbage!
This is a reply to a friend's entry about the "book" series Fifty Shades of Twatlight Fanfiction written by a Despie Loser For Whom the Guillotine Would Be Too Swift. I mean Fifty... no. Not going to sully my page by writing that here
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So - and forgive me being confused but you seem pretty open so I'll just ask - are you transmale or cis male? Not that it matters, obvs, I just want the right info.
All right - TMI time it is! And no, I don't mind. I'm pretty open about stuff like that, as long as people are comfy talking about it. Everybody has a body, right?
There are rare occasions where, to be completely blunt, I just want to be shoved up against a wall. But... I'm more... and I don't even know the word - cerebralsexual/aestheticsexual. If I connect with someone mentally, I find them more attractive, and even people I'm attracted to purely physically, it's like looking at a sculpture. You want to look at and touch the sculpture, know its curves and its textures and experience it with your senses... but that doesn't mean you wanna fuck it.
[Let's not count that one myth, OK?]
I'm much more a frottage person than a sticking anything anywhere person. Which I have done. Might even do again. I don't hate it, there's just other things I much PREFER to do if doing anything along those lines.
It seems like penetrative sex IS the Holy Sexual Grail for most people. Like you haven't really done ANYTHING until you've done THAT. Or people who have given and received oral and every other thing wouldn't be calling themselves "virgins". Because sweetie, chugging nut ain't virginal (I'm so ladylike, no?). I don't think Mother Theresa could suck a golf ball through a garden hose, ifyouknowwhatimean.
I think there are many ways to be sexual and as long as no one gets hurt and everyone consents, no way is wrong. From my perspective, I think it's rather pragmatic - if I wanna get off, I have a mind and a hand and I can guaran-damn-te I'm better at it than ANYONE else. I've had 20+ years of experience and I know exactly what I want. But, you can't really make out with yourself, now, can you?
I'm completely unattached at the moment and infinitely happier that way in the long run. I can't relationships.
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I am a totally lesbian-shaped dude. :) (Trans, that is, though I've been mostly kicked out of the trans groups on LJ for "sympathizing with the enemy", meaning I don't buy into "DIE CIS SCUM". *Eyeroll* I still haven't looked up exactly what that meme is, and I don't want to know either right now. Too much to do at the moment without getting involved with that-all nonsense just now.) Hey, I don't know if you're a guy or lady or what either; I just realized. I assumed female-type; that's very wicked of me to do so.
Everybody has a body, right?
*Grin* I like you too much to corrupt you with the drama of the internet. *Gives Grue a wicked grin look if she's reading this* We've seen things.
I understand what you mean about a non-physical connection. I'm sure that if/when asexuality is explored more, future ace and demi teens will have books written for them that describe these feelings so they can piece them out. As it is now, all one can do is relate it to what we have available, which is, unfortunately "that means you wanna hit dat!" Which isn't exactly accurate, but I don't begrudge it. The people who say that are working with what they know, after all, because that's all one can really do in the end. It's right confusing. I find that entire paragraph semi-relatable in ways that I don't quite get myself. Funny how looks just don't matter... but that's a total tl;dr that's only suitable for PMing Nosey Nellies.
By the way, nothing you ever, ever, ever ask or say to me is going to bug, annoy, or offend because I know you don't mean to. So you can just cut that worry out forever.
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Although, I'm a tomboy because fuck gender, that's why. I can be a woman without Performing Femininity (though I can) and anybody who has a problem with that can bite me.
For me, anyway, looks matter. But not all that much. Unless you're downright repulsive with horrible personal hygiene, odds are good I'll find something attractive about you (the Royal You, not you specifically, although you too, of course).
And I'd like a physical connection. Although it either ends up being Let's Have Sex (which I don't generally want) or Let's Have a Relationship (which I also don't generally want). I need a makeout buddy, is what I need. I guess even that, for me, is more about emotional connection/comfort/bonding than it is about sex though to...
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