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My sister sent me a copy of the deposition with my brother. I'm just so furious about it....
Please don't get me wrong. I'm not excusing what my brother did. It was a crappy thing to do. Well, more than crappy. It was an awful thing to do to his family. I have my own theory of what happened and why and in the long run if my brother had just asked for help, alot of this could have been stopped. He has a great relationship with his in-laws and he would just have to mention to them that he was concerned about his wife and they would have done whatever they could do to help. But he didn't. That was a stupid and whie he was trying to protect his wife it ended up getting way out of control for him.
However, you just had to read the deposition to understand what I mean. It just makes me so upset that he had to go through all this when it could have been taken care of by a simple phone call or an email to me back in the spring or summer of 2007. I could have at least been contacted by October or November and it would have been stopped by then and we could have salvaged alot of the money and ALL of the public humiliation of my brother. Of course, he did a bad thing. but my sister sat in the lawyer's ofice and watched the whole trainwreck. Keeping in mind all the events that led up to the deposition, it just seemed that she was enjoying all of it. Taking him to court with the civil suit and the deposition wasn't going to change anything that he did nor was it going to "punish" him any more than he's punishing himself for what happened. She just liked beingin control and making someone else suffer because she was wronged.
Which leads me back to why I'm so furious about the whole thing. Reading the deposition and how he had to explain so many things about his wife and her illness just made me sick to my heart and my stomach. It was obvious that he was trying to protect her as much as he could. This should have been handled in the family to as mush of an extent as possible. My sister kept trying to tell me that she did that but in the end, she didn't exhaust all the possibilties, which means she should have contacted me about her suspicions as soon as she had them.
All I know is that, my father would have never allowed this to have gone on any further than when he had suspicions. He would have contacted all involved and would never had let the situation go as far as it did.
All this reminds me of the reasons I stopped communicating with my sister in the first place. She's a controlling person. She wants to control everything so much that if she can't control it, she will go to anything lengths to gain control. She knew if she called me, I'd put a stop to what was happening and she couldn't be in control anymore.
Every time I let my mother or my sister back into my life, I end up regretting it. It's been 30+ years of living without them but at least I didn't have to deal with their crap.
Dave thinks i should just sit back and see how it unfolds. Mysister is now "interim trustee" but he thinks she has no intention of giving up the control so I can be a co-trustee. And to be prefectly honest, I'm ready to wash my hands of the whole thing. No amount of money is worth this.