My thoughts on love.....
I've had discussions recently and in the past on the topic of love and how you know when you are truly in love or whether you should or should not marry someone. These are my thoughts on the subject.
I think that in order to truly love someone, you have to be willing to love ALL of them. The good, the bad, the odd and the random. You can't say you love someone if you don't accept them for who they are- and that means everything.
I know everyone has flaws and things that annoy other people. I am not saying that you have to love everything about that person, I am saying you have to accept even the little annoying things because it all adds up to who they are.
If someone truly loves you, they know your past and can deal with it. They know what you've done, what you didn't do and what you wish you had done- and they love you just the same. They may not like everything about you, but they love everything that makes you you. If there is something that bothers you about them that you can't get past, then bring it up, talk about it and try to resolve it. The worst thing you can do is let it fester. If you don't feel that you can talk to them about your past or about something that bothers you, it may sound harsh but save yourself the heartache and move on. If you are right for eachother, there may be apprehension, but there will never be fear.
Love takes sacrifice, compromise, trust and commitment. If you don't have trust and commitment, you have nothing. If you aren't willing to sacrifice or compromise every so often, then don't bother. Too many people don't understand that you have to work to maintain a healthy relationship. They think that because you love eachother, everything else will fall into place. It doesn't work like that.
I know it sounds cliche but, if you truly love someone it makes you want to be a better person. Not to impress them, but because they inspire you. Because they bring out the best in you. Because being there for eachother means doing everything you can to be the rock they can lean on and the shoulder they can cry on. Being their cheering section and their sounding board. Being the balance in eachother's life and complimenting eachother is healthy and can lead to a very positive and longlasting relationship.
I know we all want that "I can't live without this person" feeling from time to time, but if you're looking for someone to complete you, you're looking for trouble. If you don't feel whole on your own, you're not ready for a commitment. I am speaking from experience on this one. No one else can make you feel whole and that's a lot of pressure to put on someone unfairly. Don't look for someone to fill the hole. If you're a whole person to begin with and the other person is too, then go for it!
Those are my thoughts for the time being. The sun has gone to bed and so must I. So long, farewell, auf wiedersehen, good night. Good night!
I think that in order to truly love someone, you have to be willing to love ALL of them. The good, the bad, the odd and the random. You can't say you love someone if you don't accept them for who they are- and that means everything.
I know everyone has flaws and things that annoy other people. I am not saying that you have to love everything about that person, I am saying you have to accept even the little annoying things because it all adds up to who they are.
If someone truly loves you, they know your past and can deal with it. They know what you've done, what you didn't do and what you wish you had done- and they love you just the same. They may not like everything about you, but they love everything that makes you you. If there is something that bothers you about them that you can't get past, then bring it up, talk about it and try to resolve it. The worst thing you can do is let it fester. If you don't feel that you can talk to them about your past or about something that bothers you, it may sound harsh but save yourself the heartache and move on. If you are right for eachother, there may be apprehension, but there will never be fear.
Love takes sacrifice, compromise, trust and commitment. If you don't have trust and commitment, you have nothing. If you aren't willing to sacrifice or compromise every so often, then don't bother. Too many people don't understand that you have to work to maintain a healthy relationship. They think that because you love eachother, everything else will fall into place. It doesn't work like that.
I know it sounds cliche but, if you truly love someone it makes you want to be a better person. Not to impress them, but because they inspire you. Because they bring out the best in you. Because being there for eachother means doing everything you can to be the rock they can lean on and the shoulder they can cry on. Being their cheering section and their sounding board. Being the balance in eachother's life and complimenting eachother is healthy and can lead to a very positive and longlasting relationship.
I know we all want that "I can't live without this person" feeling from time to time, but if you're looking for someone to complete you, you're looking for trouble. If you don't feel whole on your own, you're not ready for a commitment. I am speaking from experience on this one. No one else can make you feel whole and that's a lot of pressure to put on someone unfairly. Don't look for someone to fill the hole. If you're a whole person to begin with and the other person is too, then go for it!
Those are my thoughts for the time being. The sun has gone to bed and so must I. So long, farewell, auf wiedersehen, good night. Good night!