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[hangingbyayarn]

Last night was just MISERABLE. There is no other way to describe it. It was hot as hell, and it did not cool down, for even a second. It was just awful. I chose to sleep in the living room, because the bedroom was like a FRIGGIN OVEN! (Seriously! Just by going in to get my pillow, I was DRENCHED in sweat.)
Well, the living room, while definitely

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[basketcaselady]

Have you considered that there may be another reason your sweetie is at the Moose so often? And if he is even AT the Moose as much as he says he is? I'm afraid I would be a tad suspicious. It may be time to check that out.

[hangingbyayarn]

I appreciate the concern. But, I can safely say it is the Moose. My sweetie is a big bar type person. And the moose has cheap drinks. Plus, they are always calling (EVERY DAY) and asking for some type of help. I am usually the one who answers the phone.
Even still, I do feel completely abandoned. And, my sweetie just REFUSES to hear my concerns.

[basketcaselady]

I agree with Vilakins. We need a new nickname for 'Sweetie.' Perhaps we should vote on one :)

I'm sorry you feel completely abandoned. That makes me quite sad. :(

Regardless of his motives for being away at the Moose so much, I think it's time to ask yourself a few questions (not in any particular order):

1) Are you happy with this relationship?

2) Do you foresee his invisibility act changing in the foreseeable future?

3) Are you able to live with this situation for the rest of your life?

4) Are you happy?

5) Can this situation be fixed?

Look at your answers and that will help you decide if you need to put forth more effort or if it's time to move on--or for him to move on.

[vilakins]

I agree with Vilakins. We need a new nickname for 'Sweetie.' Perhaps we should vote on one :)

Sourpuss? Grumpy? Rain-cloud?

I think Grumpy should get a proper paying job behind a bar (Grumpy has good experience to cite) and actually contribute something to the household.

[basketcaselady]

I was thinking more along the lines of "Invisibile Partner."

[vilakins]

That would work! I was going for the opposite of "sweetie".

[kwanboa]

All of this. Michael, I sincerely doubt your husband is cheating. BUT he's clearly as unhappy as you are right now.

I wonder if it's because he used to be the strong one and you were always the weak, disabled one? But now you have a hobby, you have school, you are walking and will probably go back to working...what does HE have beyond wasting money (where is he GETTING this money?! I asked you before and I'll ask again, does this guy have a JOB?!) at the Moose? Perhaps he is unwilling to be in a relationship where the power balance is more equalized.

I see some of it, as I'm disabled myself, and then my girlfriend is a licensed physiotherapist. Sort of the same dynamic, or rather, the potential for it. But we both have a need to pull our own weight no matter what life throws at us. I can only offer her the chance at a good life by helping to MAKE it for us, you know? And she feels the same.