My Observations
I'm in a strange place in life right now...
ALL my friends are married. These are the people I go out with and currently hang out with. We have fun, but there is that unspoken vibe. It's the law of human nature I think, Type A personality seeks out Type B personality. Most couples are one or the other, those that have both of Type A tend to argue a lot and always feel tension. The Type B argue but over different things, like chores and who is cleaning what....
When you have 1 person that person is always seeking out their mate. When you have a couple, the couple eventually starts to seek out their match couple. and it seems to grow, when you mix it up and toss in a single person, things have a different feel. It changes the dynamics of the group. Road trips change, you can't really go out of town a married couple and a single person, because at the end of the night there is that vibe again... Like you are the third wheel.
Women are funny breed within themselves. They like having their girlfriends over, but there usually is a purpose behind it. Careful you can't talk to the husband too much, you have to give equal attention, one party gets jealous when you give the other party too much of your time. It's a tricky balance...
Most of my married friends are going through a transition phase in their lives. Most are on edge a bit with their spouse and not happy. I feel it is just that a phase, what person does not question their life? Questions if they made the right choice? I feel strongly in the end they will all be OK. I think married or single every person goes through that phase, it just seems more obvious when there are two people going through the phase at once because their is open conflict, whereas a single person no open conflict just inner conflict.
I don't think there is that "ONE" perfect person out there, I think it's more about loving someone inspite of their flaws. Knowing everything about a person and at the end of the day, going, yeh, that's my other half!
I find my perspective on life changes more and more as I get older. My values remain constant however, my view of the world is constantly growing with knowledge and experience. The one thing I enjoy most about journaling is that I get to go back and see how I viewed life 2 years ago and notice the changes.
I have also found that planning a vacation is harder as you get older. You now have to take into account work schedules, and not only that you have to find a location that is pleasing to everyone. I miss the days of when you could say out loud "Hey let's go the beach in midwinter" and people would jump out and say OK let's go. Without hesitation.
I miss the days where I could have a one night stand without pause. There is a price to getting older, as your innocence of the world fades you loose some of that "Free spirit"
I often question if that what I am fighting so hard to hold onto, that "Free Spirit"? I'm not rushing off to get married, I'm not even close to that point. I value my freedom. I like knowing I can pay my own way. I don't like having someone pick up my tab, I feel obligated to them if they do. I hate that feeling of I owe you... Why does that bother me so? What would I loose if I had someone to share things with? Is it fear of judgment? Fear of rejection?
I have also decided on how to finish my back tattoo. I think it appropriately closes out a chapter in my life and tells a story of it's own. I took the PICS and concept to the guy that does my tattoo's he seemed to like it and said to give him some time to work on it. I'm excited, There is a need within me to have it finished.
I am still working on my weekend getaway trip to the beach, to see this band I. Really really Really want to see!
Just finding someone to go with that will also enjoy the music now that is a challenge!
ALL my friends are married. These are the people I go out with and currently hang out with. We have fun, but there is that unspoken vibe. It's the law of human nature I think, Type A personality seeks out Type B personality. Most couples are one or the other, those that have both of Type A tend to argue a lot and always feel tension. The Type B argue but over different things, like chores and who is cleaning what....
When you have 1 person that person is always seeking out their mate. When you have a couple, the couple eventually starts to seek out their match couple. and it seems to grow, when you mix it up and toss in a single person, things have a different feel. It changes the dynamics of the group. Road trips change, you can't really go out of town a married couple and a single person, because at the end of the night there is that vibe again... Like you are the third wheel.
Women are funny breed within themselves. They like having their girlfriends over, but there usually is a purpose behind it. Careful you can't talk to the husband too much, you have to give equal attention, one party gets jealous when you give the other party too much of your time. It's a tricky balance...
Most of my married friends are going through a transition phase in their lives. Most are on edge a bit with their spouse and not happy. I feel it is just that a phase, what person does not question their life? Questions if they made the right choice? I feel strongly in the end they will all be OK. I think married or single every person goes through that phase, it just seems more obvious when there are two people going through the phase at once because their is open conflict, whereas a single person no open conflict just inner conflict.
I don't think there is that "ONE" perfect person out there, I think it's more about loving someone inspite of their flaws. Knowing everything about a person and at the end of the day, going, yeh, that's my other half!
I find my perspective on life changes more and more as I get older. My values remain constant however, my view of the world is constantly growing with knowledge and experience. The one thing I enjoy most about journaling is that I get to go back and see how I viewed life 2 years ago and notice the changes.
I have also found that planning a vacation is harder as you get older. You now have to take into account work schedules, and not only that you have to find a location that is pleasing to everyone. I miss the days of when you could say out loud "Hey let's go the beach in midwinter" and people would jump out and say OK let's go. Without hesitation.
I miss the days where I could have a one night stand without pause. There is a price to getting older, as your innocence of the world fades you loose some of that "Free spirit"
I often question if that what I am fighting so hard to hold onto, that "Free Spirit"? I'm not rushing off to get married, I'm not even close to that point. I value my freedom. I like knowing I can pay my own way. I don't like having someone pick up my tab, I feel obligated to them if they do. I hate that feeling of I owe you... Why does that bother me so? What would I loose if I had someone to share things with? Is it fear of judgment? Fear of rejection?
I have also decided on how to finish my back tattoo. I think it appropriately closes out a chapter in my life and tells a story of it's own. I took the PICS and concept to the guy that does my tattoo's he seemed to like it and said to give him some time to work on it. I'm excited, There is a need within me to have it finished.
I am still working on my weekend getaway trip to the beach, to see this band I. Really really Really want to see!
Just finding someone to go with that will also enjoy the music now that is a challenge!