the racism on the teevee in the 21st century
My roommate's friend got her to watch Momma's Boys
Basically a "Bachelor" type show, cept there are 3 guys picking from a group of girls and the moms of the guys are living with the girls.
I mostly ignored it while doing stuff on my laptop, but, probably somewhat thanks to the editing, i caught snippets of comments by one mom talking about how she just couldn't see her son dating a black girl and then her telling a black girl her son is interested in that "if she [the girl] respected her [the mom] she wouldn't go out on the date and certainly wouldn't kiss her son" (more or less)
The girl responded "You're right. If i respected you i wouldn't."
And then they argued a bunch and another girl hauled the one girl out.
Comments after that point from the mom never really seemed to hit race again, but the looks she had whil she made comments about her son being with "that girl" seemed to convey a lot.
i'm assuming just for the great TV it became, the producers of the show decided to take (or give in to) the mom and take her on a helicopter ride above the date and give her access to a zoom camera that zoomed in on her son and the girl macking in a hot tub.
She became infuriated and violently pounded on the window of the helicopter in a way that i'd be scared to do in a magic flying can.
There's plenty of times i see racism and i can just ignore it or blow it off, but for some reason this mom's reactions had me fairly incensed.
i think it was because instead of talking racist, she was acting and expressing the level of disgust that she had. there's ign'ant things folks say, and then there's getting violently upset when you see your son kissing a black girl.
Also, i think it was the way she kept saying " that girl". The editors had shown nothing that that particular girl had done to upset the mom, and she never gave any reason for her being upset, she just kept saying " that girl". So i was half in shock that she was willing to act as racist as she was acting on National TV and then pissed because she was pretending to herself that she wasn't racist simply because she wasn't saying "black girl"
And i think i was thrown because it seems like she's thinks of herself as a good-hearted person, and i think she is when you aren't trying to date her son. I don't think she's (remotely as) racist outside of that realm, either. When she got back all upset, (in way that seemed a bit too odd to be coincidental) there were two black girls there who reached out to comfort her.
They did a pretty good job on confrontation, too. They empathized with how upset she was and comforted her, but pointed out that some of the things she said were hurtful to them as well. And when she tried to say she wasn't racist, calmly pointed out that she hadn't been upset at all when her son had kissed another girl.
I was also dumbfounded at the point when the mom confronted the son of what he was doing and he said he was doing it in private and her response was "Well, it wasn't private because I saw it in the helicopter." (you know... with the massive zoom camera)
I'm at a bit of a loss at how he didn't confront her on the irrationality of expecting planes and helicopters to be spying on you and, you know, how totally and utterly psychotic it is to stalk your son on a date with a helicopter.
But one look at the end of the episode as he was hugging a girl next to his mom explained so much. It was a look of such intense misery and feeling trapped.
Basically a "Bachelor" type show, cept there are 3 guys picking from a group of girls and the moms of the guys are living with the girls.
I mostly ignored it while doing stuff on my laptop, but, probably somewhat thanks to the editing, i caught snippets of comments by one mom talking about how she just couldn't see her son dating a black girl and then her telling a black girl her son is interested in that "if she [the girl] respected her [the mom] she wouldn't go out on the date and certainly wouldn't kiss her son" (more or less)
The girl responded "You're right. If i respected you i wouldn't."
And then they argued a bunch and another girl hauled the one girl out.
Comments after that point from the mom never really seemed to hit race again, but the looks she had whil she made comments about her son being with "that girl" seemed to convey a lot.
i'm assuming just for the great TV it became, the producers of the show decided to take (or give in to) the mom and take her on a helicopter ride above the date and give her access to a zoom camera that zoomed in on her son and the girl macking in a hot tub.
She became infuriated and violently pounded on the window of the helicopter in a way that i'd be scared to do in a magic flying can.
There's plenty of times i see racism and i can just ignore it or blow it off, but for some reason this mom's reactions had me fairly incensed.
i think it was because instead of talking racist, she was acting and expressing the level of disgust that she had. there's ign'ant things folks say, and then there's getting violently upset when you see your son kissing a black girl.
Also, i think it was the way she kept saying " that girl". The editors had shown nothing that that particular girl had done to upset the mom, and she never gave any reason for her being upset, she just kept saying " that girl". So i was half in shock that she was willing to act as racist as she was acting on National TV and then pissed because she was pretending to herself that she wasn't racist simply because she wasn't saying "black girl"
And i think i was thrown because it seems like she's thinks of herself as a good-hearted person, and i think she is when you aren't trying to date her son. I don't think she's (remotely as) racist outside of that realm, either. When she got back all upset, (in way that seemed a bit too odd to be coincidental) there were two black girls there who reached out to comfort her.
They did a pretty good job on confrontation, too. They empathized with how upset she was and comforted her, but pointed out that some of the things she said were hurtful to them as well. And when she tried to say she wasn't racist, calmly pointed out that she hadn't been upset at all when her son had kissed another girl.
I was also dumbfounded at the point when the mom confronted the son of what he was doing and he said he was doing it in private and her response was "Well, it wasn't private because I saw it in the helicopter." (you know... with the massive zoom camera)
I'm at a bit of a loss at how he didn't confront her on the irrationality of expecting planes and helicopters to be spying on you and, you know, how totally and utterly psychotic it is to stalk your son on a date with a helicopter.
But one look at the end of the episode as he was hugging a girl next to his mom explained so much. It was a look of such intense misery and feeling trapped.