RS: EXAMINE YOUR LIFE, EXAMINE YOUR CHOICES

[half_life_wolf]

So, my computer is still out of commission. Because of that I only wind up checking fandom_secrets  a day after the last post was relevant, which spurs some... odd fits of impotent rage/sadness/irritation. The 4/20 secret post was absolutely RIFE with bitchy secrets related to people posting unanon on kink memes, by which I mean there were two of them, and I was

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[yggidee]

There are a myriad of reasons to post either logged in or anon, and I certainly don't begrudge the decisions made by writers and artists on kink memes and the like. You've explained your own position on the matter and I have nothing to object to.

I would, however, like to explain own stance on the issue, so long as it's being addressed.

Basically, when I am online I am mind-bogglingly, hopelessly shy. I've been on Livejournal aggressively for five years and have managed an earth shattering 1 Livejournal post and 90 comments. I'll generally spend the better part of an hour mulling over a comment before I post it because oh man what if I use too many adverbs and then everyone will hate me

Kink/anon memes are the only place online or otherwise where I am comfortable of requesting or commenting on fic, like, at all. When I see other people requesting fics while logged in I feel like a wuss for not having the guts to request publicly like the cool kids. Then the neurotic paranoia sets in and I wonder if logged-in requests are getting priority over my own because I'm a lame anon wuss.

I'm not bothered by people who log in for fills, HTML is a nightmare when you're anon and frankly if it's an artfill or whatever it's not like you're fooling anyone.

Also I don't want people to know what my horrible fetishes are, and honestly, I don't know if I want to know what anyone else's are either.

So I guess I favour anon posting because I am a crazy neurotic person

ps hi i friended you to stare at all your fics they are so awesome you dont even know

pps when I started this comment there were only seven replies to your post, and I almost did it anon. Reticence in action, folks!

[half_life_wolf]

Mmm, I understand entirely. Well, not entirely because my social anxiety is obviously far more mild than yours, but I still give you all of my empathy because I used to be much more towards this end of the spectrum in my younger years, and what if I use too many adverbs and then everyone will hate me resonated way too well with my own personal experience for comfort. Let me just say that I was in no way trying to suggest that kink memes should never be anon, or that people should feel badly about posting anonymously! Making people comfortable posting about their kinks, or even posting at all, is clearly one of the main objectives of kink memes, other than to generate porn.

I should also clarify that I am fairly iffy on the concept of requesting things logged in at all, for about that reason. I know people who do it and they don't do it out of egotism or malice, but it still seems a bit off to me, and I never do that as just a personal thing, though in my case it winds up me thinking more along the lines of "oh god what if someone thinks that I think that just because I've done all these fills I deserve one too oh christ let's just anon it up again and pray no one somehow notices my typing style or anything" rather than "well this is a kink meme so obviously it's for anon requests only". I remember thinking it was kind of tacky when requesting logged in became a "thing" awhile back, but I kind of shrugged and moved on.

What I was talking about-- and for the most part what I was responding to in this post --was only people complaining about authors posting fills logged in, which I find incredibly silly.

tl;dr: I think we agree on all these points, bro! As long as you're cool with me posting fic logged in and don't think I'm an egotistical fuckass for it, then I am more than cool with you commenting anonymous. I see no logical disconnect here.

PS: I'm thrilled beyond measure that you're enjoying my work, and that you were brave enough to say this non-anonymously. That really does take a lot of courage for someone who's that shy, and as someone with maybe one onehundredth of the SA it sounds like you have, I can begin to understand how hard it can be. It means a lot that you would share your opinions with me!