I'm not sure I hold the Authentic Self in such high regard. I know I want to be a better person when I'm with J than when I was alone. I want to push myself, not because I think she would be/is disappointed with the "real me" so much as that I want more/better for her.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to be a different person. I'm just trying to be a better me.
I'm not trying to be a different person. I'm just trying to be a better me.
Is that not the Authentic Self? Truly opening yourself up to all your potentials and possibilities, pushing yourself not beyond what you really can do, but what you've programmed yourself to believe you can do? And not to become "better," because that implies there's something wrong with you now, but out of curiosity to see what else is possible. The Authentic Self is not static. And if you've found your "one," then they'll be part of that unfolding.
I was using your provided definition: "the person we are when we’re not trying to impress anyone or conform to any norms" Without outside influence, I'm inherently lazy and slobbish, I don't take as good care of myself as I should, and am not very social. I try to be neater, take better care of myself, and be more social now. But I need outside motivation (not her pushing, but me pushing for her) to do it.
But you wouldn't have to. She loves you even on days when you give into every lazy, slobbing instinct you have. Because that, too, is part of your Authentic Self, the days when you don't feel the need to fight it. And that's what the best love is: being with someone with whom you're comfortable embracing all aspects of yourself, even the ones you've been enculturated to think of as "bad."
I agree with both of you. I know I can be myself infront of Cameron. I just also know that I want to be the best me I can be and I want to always be acheiving those things that makes him proud of me.
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Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to be a different person. I'm just trying to be a better me.
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Is that not the Authentic Self? Truly opening yourself up to all your potentials and possibilities, pushing yourself not beyond what you really can do, but what you've programmed yourself to believe you can do? And not to become "better," because that implies there's something wrong with you now, but out of curiosity to see what else is possible. The Authentic Self is not static. And if you've found your "one," then they'll be part of that unfolding.
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