Moving at 35 weeks!
Okay so things have been pretty crazy lately.
My trip to NY to see my mom and my sister and for my baby shower nearly turned into a drunken Jerry Springer episode, lol. Okay, not that bad, but still...I recently posted about it in just about all the communities I'm in as well as my personal journal if you wanna check out the story. Anyway, when I came home, it was even more drama (i.e. my fiance getting into a fight with his dad because his dad refuses to put the air conditioning on until it's past 80-something inside the house, then his dad got pissed about us wanting to put a window unit in our bedroom even though my fiance offered to pay the difference in the bill and came barging his way into the room in anger and got his arm stuck in the door because my fiance was trying to hold it closed to keep his crazy ass out, so he ended up coming after my fiance with a STUN GUN for no sane reason whatsoever, etc).
Well, needless to say, it was beyond time for us to find a place of our own. We haven't been able to save up enough money to get our own place here (in Maryland) with prices being at about $1000 (in CRAPPY neighborhoods) just for a one bedroom apartment, and even if we came up with enough for the down payment on a rental place, we still wouldn't have enough to pay rent each month until I started working again (even then it would be tight) let alone rent, electric, gas, car payment, car insurance, etc. So I've been searching and searching and becoming more and more stressed and really depressed...even considered looking into a SUPER old RV (I guess that's what it is) that my fiance's ex-step-mom offered to us if we wanted to fix it up and find a lot that rents out parking space and living in that! Ugh, I could die. But it was beginning to look like a much better option than staying here!
Well, I spoke to my dad (his gf just recently moved back in with him) who owns a place in Florida. We just moved up to Maryland in January FROM Florida because it was supposed to make things easier (it didn't). We had been living with roommates who decided they were going to move and then my fiance got fired from his 4-year-long position at Sears, so we decided we would move to Maryland since his dad said we were more than welcome (so not true). Anyway, I've decided to move back down there and live with my dad and his gf. It was an option in the past, but moving (again) was going to be tough and we wanted to try things out here. Well, my fiance isn't thrilled about it, but I talked to him about how I can't take being stressed and worrying about being stuck here, living with his father and not knowing when he's going to flip out like he did that day. Also, being stuck in the heat here, etc. His dad isn't very "welcoming" either and I would have to worry about having the baby's stuff anywhere but our bedroom (which is much too small for EVERYTHING). I mean, I wouldn't be able to pull out the playpen and have the baby in it without worrying about infringing on his space. At least if we move in with my dad, I will feel much more welcome and at home. He's been begging me to "come home" for months. His gf has a six year old son who is like my little brother. I love him to death! And he LOVES my fiance! I just feel so lonely and depressed here. At least there I will have family support and I know where I will be living when the baby comes and I won't have to worry so much. Plus, places are much less expensive there. And even though you make less money there, it just is MUCH less expensive.
So, I'm going to be moving AT THE LAST MINUTE! First week of July, my dad's gf has a week's vacation. They're gonna help us get a truck or whatever we need to move our stuff down there. They'll probably be coming up here to help us move it all, too. It's not too much - the box that the crib is in and the dresser we have are probably the only "big" items. But anyway, I am so relieved! I don't care about switching doctors last minute or anything like that. I already called the health department there and all I'm going to have to do is cancel my medicaid here before I leave and they should be able to get me medicaid ASAP down in Florida, during which time I will be seen by the doctors anyway just as "pending" on my insurance. I really like my doctor here, but I know there are GREAT doctors there as well. I was there when I first got pregnant and initially planned on using one of those docs.
My fiance works for Lowe's and soon he'll be talking to them about possibly getting transferred to the one in Florida. I really hope that works out!!!
The only compromise was that my dad has a bunch of his own animals and we have 3 cats. He didn't want us to have the cats too, because it would just be too much. Well, I convinced him to let them be yard cats. So, they'll still be able to go with us! I love my cats too much to give them up!
So, first week of July, I'll be 35 weeks! And I'll be moving! All the way to FLORIDA! The worst part is going to be the trip down there! It's about a 13 hour long trip (give or take). So, I'm hoping it won't be too terrible. I've had an uncomplicated pregnancy thus far, so I'm not too worried. I'm just going to be uncomfortable sitting in a car that long, and I'm gonna have to stop to pee A LOT, lol. I bet you'll all think I'm crazy about doing this. But I just think it's the best thing. I dunno...don't you think?
31w1d
My trip to NY to see my mom and my sister and for my baby shower nearly turned into a drunken Jerry Springer episode, lol. Okay, not that bad, but still...I recently posted about it in just about all the communities I'm in as well as my personal journal if you wanna check out the story. Anyway, when I came home, it was even more drama (i.e. my fiance getting into a fight with his dad because his dad refuses to put the air conditioning on until it's past 80-something inside the house, then his dad got pissed about us wanting to put a window unit in our bedroom even though my fiance offered to pay the difference in the bill and came barging his way into the room in anger and got his arm stuck in the door because my fiance was trying to hold it closed to keep his crazy ass out, so he ended up coming after my fiance with a STUN GUN for no sane reason whatsoever, etc).
Well, needless to say, it was beyond time for us to find a place of our own. We haven't been able to save up enough money to get our own place here (in Maryland) with prices being at about $1000 (in CRAPPY neighborhoods) just for a one bedroom apartment, and even if we came up with enough for the down payment on a rental place, we still wouldn't have enough to pay rent each month until I started working again (even then it would be tight) let alone rent, electric, gas, car payment, car insurance, etc. So I've been searching and searching and becoming more and more stressed and really depressed...even considered looking into a SUPER old RV (I guess that's what it is) that my fiance's ex-step-mom offered to us if we wanted to fix it up and find a lot that rents out parking space and living in that! Ugh, I could die. But it was beginning to look like a much better option than staying here!
Well, I spoke to my dad (his gf just recently moved back in with him) who owns a place in Florida. We just moved up to Maryland in January FROM Florida because it was supposed to make things easier (it didn't). We had been living with roommates who decided they were going to move and then my fiance got fired from his 4-year-long position at Sears, so we decided we would move to Maryland since his dad said we were more than welcome (so not true). Anyway, I've decided to move back down there and live with my dad and his gf. It was an option in the past, but moving (again) was going to be tough and we wanted to try things out here. Well, my fiance isn't thrilled about it, but I talked to him about how I can't take being stressed and worrying about being stuck here, living with his father and not knowing when he's going to flip out like he did that day. Also, being stuck in the heat here, etc. His dad isn't very "welcoming" either and I would have to worry about having the baby's stuff anywhere but our bedroom (which is much too small for EVERYTHING). I mean, I wouldn't be able to pull out the playpen and have the baby in it without worrying about infringing on his space. At least if we move in with my dad, I will feel much more welcome and at home. He's been begging me to "come home" for months. His gf has a six year old son who is like my little brother. I love him to death! And he LOVES my fiance! I just feel so lonely and depressed here. At least there I will have family support and I know where I will be living when the baby comes and I won't have to worry so much. Plus, places are much less expensive there. And even though you make less money there, it just is MUCH less expensive.
So, I'm going to be moving AT THE LAST MINUTE! First week of July, my dad's gf has a week's vacation. They're gonna help us get a truck or whatever we need to move our stuff down there. They'll probably be coming up here to help us move it all, too. It's not too much - the box that the crib is in and the dresser we have are probably the only "big" items. But anyway, I am so relieved! I don't care about switching doctors last minute or anything like that. I already called the health department there and all I'm going to have to do is cancel my medicaid here before I leave and they should be able to get me medicaid ASAP down in Florida, during which time I will be seen by the doctors anyway just as "pending" on my insurance. I really like my doctor here, but I know there are GREAT doctors there as well. I was there when I first got pregnant and initially planned on using one of those docs.
My fiance works for Lowe's and soon he'll be talking to them about possibly getting transferred to the one in Florida. I really hope that works out!!!
The only compromise was that my dad has a bunch of his own animals and we have 3 cats. He didn't want us to have the cats too, because it would just be too much. Well, I convinced him to let them be yard cats. So, they'll still be able to go with us! I love my cats too much to give them up!
So, first week of July, I'll be 35 weeks! And I'll be moving! All the way to FLORIDA! The worst part is going to be the trip down there! It's about a 13 hour long trip (give or take). So, I'm hoping it won't be too terrible. I've had an uncomplicated pregnancy thus far, so I'm not too worried. I'm just going to be uncomfortable sitting in a car that long, and I'm gonna have to stop to pee A LOT, lol. I bet you'll all think I'm crazy about doing this. But I just think it's the best thing. I dunno...don't you think?
31w1d