Judgement
Once or twice in my life I've been accused of being judgemental and it has also been implied in actions/decisions of my friends. I have always taken offense to that accusation. I don't associate the word with positive connotation.
Upon reflection, I'm starting to think..."Maybe those people were right?"
I had to look up the meaning of the word just to see how the dictionary would describe judgement:
1. an act or instance of judging.
2. the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion: a man of sound judgment.
3. the demonstration or exercise of such ability or capacity: The major was decorated for the judgment he showed under fire.
4. the forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind: Our judgment as to the cause of his failure must rest on the evidence.
5. the opinion formed: He regretted his hasty judgment
After reading these definitions of judgement, I am led to wonder how is it possible to NOT form judgement? Everyone forms an opinion whether it's expressed or not. Does the act of expression make you judgemental or does the thought qualify you as well?
Now, here is the definition of judgemental:
of or denoting an attitude in which judgments about other people's conduct are made
Here I see a slightly different interpretation. "Judgemental" is your reaction. Sure, I have not mastered facial expressions, and maybe sometimes my true opinion may show on my face. I, however, have always made it a point not to force my opinion on others and keep an open unbiased approach.
Now, heres another observation: I have realized that people like me more because I am "agreeable." The reason why I easily fall under the facade of "agreeable" is because I have learned all my life to suppress my opinion. That, and those around me never give me a chance to give it! As much as I disagree, I always fear offending someone, hence making me soft-spoken and well, soft.
Over the years I've been blessed to have a few friends who are like-minded and who encourage me to be myself. And with those rare people they get the chance to see the good and the bad. I guess you could say they don't judge me for being judgemental - or at least they refrain from expressing such judgement.
Hmm...I see this going round in circles.
Anyways, to those out there in cyber world. I may be likeable, smile at you and make you feel great, but in reality, I'm as much of a bitch as you. I just do a better job of hiding it.
Upon reflection, I'm starting to think..."Maybe those people were right?"
I had to look up the meaning of the word just to see how the dictionary would describe judgement:
1. an act or instance of judging.
2. the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion: a man of sound judgment.
3. the demonstration or exercise of such ability or capacity: The major was decorated for the judgment he showed under fire.
4. the forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind: Our judgment as to the cause of his failure must rest on the evidence.
5. the opinion formed: He regretted his hasty judgment
After reading these definitions of judgement, I am led to wonder how is it possible to NOT form judgement? Everyone forms an opinion whether it's expressed or not. Does the act of expression make you judgemental or does the thought qualify you as well?
Now, here is the definition of judgemental:
of or denoting an attitude in which judgments about other people's conduct are made
Here I see a slightly different interpretation. "Judgemental" is your reaction. Sure, I have not mastered facial expressions, and maybe sometimes my true opinion may show on my face. I, however, have always made it a point not to force my opinion on others and keep an open unbiased approach.
Now, heres another observation: I have realized that people like me more because I am "agreeable." The reason why I easily fall under the facade of "agreeable" is because I have learned all my life to suppress my opinion. That, and those around me never give me a chance to give it! As much as I disagree, I always fear offending someone, hence making me soft-spoken and well, soft.
Over the years I've been blessed to have a few friends who are like-minded and who encourage me to be myself. And with those rare people they get the chance to see the good and the bad. I guess you could say they don't judge me for being judgemental - or at least they refrain from expressing such judgement.
Hmm...I see this going round in circles.
Anyways, to those out there in cyber world. I may be likeable, smile at you and make you feel great, but in reality, I'm as much of a bitch as you. I just do a better job of hiding it.