So I'm trying to Distact Myself.
Yeah I've been thinking about a lot lately and the lists and lists of crap won't stop running thorough my head. So here is one of them that will maybe make the rest go away.
What I want in a Guy--Like a marriage material guy:
-First and foremost we have to have a connection. We have to be able to talk and I feel like either he understands me or can analyze and interpret what I say really well
-Another aspect of this connection is we have so much in common like, personality wise or little things that it just seems right
-Good listener, because I like to talk. I want to be able to have good engaging conversations about anything and everything. Except politics and religion.
-Has to be a creative person. Like even if he doesn't want a creative job, he has to think for himself and be able to think of his own ideas and such (Mike, just for you I changed whatnot to such; In case everyone doesn't know, which they don't, Mike doesn't like the word whatnot)
-Has to be a nice, good person
-Doesn't yell when he gets mad. But has to tell me when he's mad. Not a bottler. In fact should tell me why he's mad. Especially if he's mad at me. I don't want to have to play some kind of intricate series of guessing games. I don't want to have to guess if you're mad, and I don't want to have to guess why.
-I guess this should be at the top of the list, but Oh well. Must want a family. preferably a big one. Must have the desire to be a husband and a father, and a darn good one. Not now, just if they want to someday.
-Equally important is standards and values. They must adhere to their own standards they set for themselves. Preferably has similar standards to mine, but most importantly of all, don't push me on my standards. I am darn well going to stick to my own beliefs and values and the standards I have set for my self. Don't push me on them and don't challenge them. Sure it's okay to question me, but once you know I believe what I believe for said reason drop it.
-Accepts me for who I am and doesn't try to change me
-Must accept our relationship as a partnership of complete equals. He takes care of the things he does best and I take care of the things I do best.
-Must not have annoying man pride. Like if I want to drive, I want us to take my car ad I'll drive without the guy thinking Oh --this makes me unmanly. But I don't want to have to drive all the time and other things.
-I don't want to have to be the strong one. This encompasses a lot of things. I want us to be equal like I said. I don't want to have all the responsibility of anything. I want us to be able to help each other keep our standards and stuff.
-Must be a positive person. I don't like constant negativity and pessimism. If you have a bad day/week/month whatever. But if it lasts for super long than that's not healthy and I'm not going to let it bring me down.
-also must be willing to talk to me if they have a bad day. No bottling. Especially if I seem receptive. I like to fix things and I want to help people, but I can't do that if they bottle.
-Must be self-confident secure with himself and trusting of me. I have a lot of guy friends, but if I'm with you I'm with you. Jealousy is retarded. So is that insecurity that constantly causes a person to question themselves. He needs to be confident and secure with being his own person. It's that insecurity that makes people need attention and makes them strive for people to like them. I want the guy I end up with to be able to say screw what people think and do whatever he wants.
-Must be able to have fun and play. Life is too serious. Must like hanging out with people or playing games or both.
-Must be interested in one way or another in learning new things. Always striving more. This shows itself in stuff like reading books, or keeping up with the news or going to school and stuff like that. Life would be boring otherwise.
-We have to have some stuff in common. Like hobby type stuff.
-Must not be awkward in any way. I hate awkwardness. I need to be able to say stuff like -Hey I like you, or Hey I'm bleeding out of my crotch and he could go ok, without a pause or an awkward silence. Even if it's like OH I so didn't want to know that, but still not awkward then ok. Also just being able to occupy the same area doing two different things but still have it be completely comfortable.
-If I'm having a bad day or stressing out or something must be willing to try and cheer me up. As long as I'm not doing that retarded girl thing where I want to be depressed. Then he should be able to say Hey you're doing that retarded girl thing where you want to be depressed-stop it.
-Also must be completely one hundred percent honest all of the time. Except for those necessary relationship white lies --like 'yes honey, even though you just got out of bed you still look beautiful. not Like, well, I think you're beautiful most of the time, but right now your hair's really greasy and your breath smells and stuff.'
-Must support me in the things I want to do. And help me when I need help on something, if he can.
-Must not be clingy or needy. Must not feel like they need constant signs of affection. Must assert independence in relationship in one way or another. I want them to be confident, and ok with us being apart as necessary, but still feel needed
-Makes up for my inadequacies while I make up for his in a manner of people complementing each other
- I want to know that the guy loves me unconditionally
Bonus, but not required...
I know its not fair but there are some annoying stereotypical girl things i like in a relationship...
-I want to be able to say I need my space and have the guy know that doesn't mean I actually want my space. It means I want him to just be quiet and hold me.
-I want him to compliment every once in awhile, so I don't have to fish for them
-I don't want to know how hot he thinks my friends are
-I want him to want to tell me if he leaves the state unexpectedly
-I want him to accept that I have a small stereotypical annoying girl voice in the back of my head and that she sometimes thinks there's all this stuff wrong with her and I want him to fix it
-That same voice gets jealous and is all sorts of manipulative and vindictive. He better know how to deal with it or something.
Really high on the list even if it is just bonus. These are the things the guy has to tolerate even if he doesn't like them. Because these are the things that are really important to me
-Must Love to Dance (This might be a requirement)
-Likes to play Frisbee
-Likes d&d
-Likes to read good fantasy books
-Interested somewhat in history
-Likes to play video games socially and when he's bored but doesn't sell his soul to them (Like playing a game more than 4 hours a day more than every once in a while in a nonsocial situation). Basically I don't want them to choose video games over me.
-Is a cat person
-Will motivate me to do the things I don't want to do, but should
-Likes to eat meat. And food. And fast food.
-Gets along with my friends. And my family
-Gets along reasonably well with his family
-Wants to settle down somewhere around here ish
-Doesn't smoke
Less important but still gets brownie points
-Likes big dogs not yappy annoying dogs
-Is okay with doing chores
-Can cook some food in one fashion or another
-Loves the mountains more than the beach
-Thinks Halo sucks balls. Along with other first person shooters.
-Acknowledges the superiority of Guild Wars to WoW
-Likes trivia games
-LIkes to watch Jeopardy and other game shows
-Is ticklish
-Likes to give massages
-laughs when watching Red vs. Blue
-Likes anime, action movies, action comedies, pirate movies, star wars, Firefly and other good TV shows, and musicals
-Likes tacos, lasagna, cream of wheat, Golden Corral, mexican food, McDonald's cheese tots from Burger King, ice cream, pumpkin pie (I don't know why food is so important, but maybe I'm just hungry right now)
-Doesn't try to get me to run, because I hate running
-Likes pirates and ninjas and martial arts
-enjoys going to renaissance festivals
-Knows how to fix the things I can't, like cars or computers. One or the other, because I only know one ortwo guys who can fix both, so maybe they don't go togther
-writes stories or poetry or does something creative
-will read my stories and poetry (and like it.As long as it's not dumb.)
-Likes Guitar Hero, stepmania/ddr, SSBM, Egg Game, Monopoly, Risk, Dominoes, Cards,
-Likes to swim.
-Likes basketball
-Not as into watching sports
-Doesn't drink
Well you get the idea. I would just keep writing things on this list. I've noticed that a lot of these things go towards things I look for in really good friends. Also, the things in the first part are things I also want in myself.
I'm pretty sure this list would go both ways, gender wise. For guys looking for girls and vice versa. For the most part.
I hate that annoying girl voice in my head. I she starts to think, especially if I'm already a little down, I get really depressed. Even more so, because I hate that I'm thinking those things and I get even more depressed. I hate being normal.
My next entry will be about all the stuff that that girl voice says. Like why are stereo typical girl thing stereotypical? Apparently most girls think them. And are some girls just better at ignoring them. Who knows?
What I want in a Guy--Like a marriage material guy:
-First and foremost we have to have a connection. We have to be able to talk and I feel like either he understands me or can analyze and interpret what I say really well
-Another aspect of this connection is we have so much in common like, personality wise or little things that it just seems right
-Good listener, because I like to talk. I want to be able to have good engaging conversations about anything and everything. Except politics and religion.
-Has to be a creative person. Like even if he doesn't want a creative job, he has to think for himself and be able to think of his own ideas and such (Mike, just for you I changed whatnot to such; In case everyone doesn't know, which they don't, Mike doesn't like the word whatnot)
-Has to be a nice, good person
-Doesn't yell when he gets mad. But has to tell me when he's mad. Not a bottler. In fact should tell me why he's mad. Especially if he's mad at me. I don't want to have to play some kind of intricate series of guessing games. I don't want to have to guess if you're mad, and I don't want to have to guess why.
-I guess this should be at the top of the list, but Oh well. Must want a family. preferably a big one. Must have the desire to be a husband and a father, and a darn good one. Not now, just if they want to someday.
-Equally important is standards and values. They must adhere to their own standards they set for themselves. Preferably has similar standards to mine, but most importantly of all, don't push me on my standards. I am darn well going to stick to my own beliefs and values and the standards I have set for my self. Don't push me on them and don't challenge them. Sure it's okay to question me, but once you know I believe what I believe for said reason drop it.
-Accepts me for who I am and doesn't try to change me
-Must accept our relationship as a partnership of complete equals. He takes care of the things he does best and I take care of the things I do best.
-Must not have annoying man pride. Like if I want to drive, I want us to take my car ad I'll drive without the guy thinking Oh --this makes me unmanly. But I don't want to have to drive all the time and other things.
-I don't want to have to be the strong one. This encompasses a lot of things. I want us to be equal like I said. I don't want to have all the responsibility of anything. I want us to be able to help each other keep our standards and stuff.
-Must be a positive person. I don't like constant negativity and pessimism. If you have a bad day/week/month whatever. But if it lasts for super long than that's not healthy and I'm not going to let it bring me down.
-also must be willing to talk to me if they have a bad day. No bottling. Especially if I seem receptive. I like to fix things and I want to help people, but I can't do that if they bottle.
-Must be self-confident secure with himself and trusting of me. I have a lot of guy friends, but if I'm with you I'm with you. Jealousy is retarded. So is that insecurity that constantly causes a person to question themselves. He needs to be confident and secure with being his own person. It's that insecurity that makes people need attention and makes them strive for people to like them. I want the guy I end up with to be able to say screw what people think and do whatever he wants.
-Must be able to have fun and play. Life is too serious. Must like hanging out with people or playing games or both.
-Must be interested in one way or another in learning new things. Always striving more. This shows itself in stuff like reading books, or keeping up with the news or going to school and stuff like that. Life would be boring otherwise.
-We have to have some stuff in common. Like hobby type stuff.
-Must not be awkward in any way. I hate awkwardness. I need to be able to say stuff like -Hey I like you, or Hey I'm bleeding out of my crotch and he could go ok, without a pause or an awkward silence. Even if it's like OH I so didn't want to know that, but still not awkward then ok. Also just being able to occupy the same area doing two different things but still have it be completely comfortable.
-If I'm having a bad day or stressing out or something must be willing to try and cheer me up. As long as I'm not doing that retarded girl thing where I want to be depressed. Then he should be able to say Hey you're doing that retarded girl thing where you want to be depressed-stop it.
-Also must be completely one hundred percent honest all of the time. Except for those necessary relationship white lies --like 'yes honey, even though you just got out of bed you still look beautiful. not Like, well, I think you're beautiful most of the time, but right now your hair's really greasy and your breath smells and stuff.'
-Must support me in the things I want to do. And help me when I need help on something, if he can.
-Must not be clingy or needy. Must not feel like they need constant signs of affection. Must assert independence in relationship in one way or another. I want them to be confident, and ok with us being apart as necessary, but still feel needed
-Makes up for my inadequacies while I make up for his in a manner of people complementing each other
- I want to know that the guy loves me unconditionally
Bonus, but not required...
I know its not fair but there are some annoying stereotypical girl things i like in a relationship...
-I want to be able to say I need my space and have the guy know that doesn't mean I actually want my space. It means I want him to just be quiet and hold me.
-I want him to compliment every once in awhile, so I don't have to fish for them
-I don't want to know how hot he thinks my friends are
-I want him to want to tell me if he leaves the state unexpectedly
-I want him to accept that I have a small stereotypical annoying girl voice in the back of my head and that she sometimes thinks there's all this stuff wrong with her and I want him to fix it
-That same voice gets jealous and is all sorts of manipulative and vindictive. He better know how to deal with it or something.
Really high on the list even if it is just bonus. These are the things the guy has to tolerate even if he doesn't like them. Because these are the things that are really important to me
-Must Love to Dance (This might be a requirement)
-Likes to play Frisbee
-Likes d&d
-Likes to read good fantasy books
-Interested somewhat in history
-Likes to play video games socially and when he's bored but doesn't sell his soul to them (Like playing a game more than 4 hours a day more than every once in a while in a nonsocial situation). Basically I don't want them to choose video games over me.
-Is a cat person
-Will motivate me to do the things I don't want to do, but should
-Likes to eat meat. And food. And fast food.
-Gets along with my friends. And my family
-Gets along reasonably well with his family
-Wants to settle down somewhere around here ish
-Doesn't smoke
Less important but still gets brownie points
-Likes big dogs not yappy annoying dogs
-Is okay with doing chores
-Can cook some food in one fashion or another
-Loves the mountains more than the beach
-Thinks Halo sucks balls. Along with other first person shooters.
-Acknowledges the superiority of Guild Wars to WoW
-Likes trivia games
-LIkes to watch Jeopardy and other game shows
-Is ticklish
-Likes to give massages
-laughs when watching Red vs. Blue
-Likes anime, action movies, action comedies, pirate movies, star wars, Firefly and other good TV shows, and musicals
-Likes tacos, lasagna, cream of wheat, Golden Corral, mexican food, McDonald's cheese tots from Burger King, ice cream, pumpkin pie (I don't know why food is so important, but maybe I'm just hungry right now)
-Doesn't try to get me to run, because I hate running
-Likes pirates and ninjas and martial arts
-enjoys going to renaissance festivals
-Knows how to fix the things I can't, like cars or computers. One or the other, because I only know one ortwo guys who can fix both, so maybe they don't go togther
-writes stories or poetry or does something creative
-will read my stories and poetry (and like it.As long as it's not dumb.)
-Likes Guitar Hero, stepmania/ddr, SSBM, Egg Game, Monopoly, Risk, Dominoes, Cards,
-Likes to swim.
-Likes basketball
-Not as into watching sports
-Doesn't drink
Well you get the idea. I would just keep writing things on this list. I've noticed that a lot of these things go towards things I look for in really good friends. Also, the things in the first part are things I also want in myself.
I'm pretty sure this list would go both ways, gender wise. For guys looking for girls and vice versa. For the most part.
I hate that annoying girl voice in my head. I she starts to think, especially if I'm already a little down, I get really depressed. Even more so, because I hate that I'm thinking those things and I get even more depressed. I hate being normal.
My next entry will be about all the stuff that that girl voice says. Like why are stereo typical girl thing stereotypical? Apparently most girls think them. And are some girls just better at ignoring them. Who knows?