Happy New Year and Things To Try This Year
Happy New Year to all. Here's hoping this one is better than the last.
Here are the requisite Resolutions 10 Things I Need To Try This Year (and Yoda can blow me because sometimes there is indeed a try):
1. I'm going to stop doing things just because I think I ought to. For example, just because I think I ought to get out more, I'm not going to bloody go out (usually with people I don't want to be with going to places I didn't really want to go) when all I really wanted to do was stay in and relax.
2. My time and my feelings are as valuable and legitimate as those of my friends and family and those who do not treat me as well as I treat them do not need to benefit from generosity that they do not reciprocate. When I put up with that, I wind up feeling bitter and it's my own damn fault.
3. I need to shake myself out of this post leg-breaky ennui and get physical again. The ankle led to a set back on the weight front. But I can fix that if I just get off my butt and do something about it.
4. I need to lessen contact with those whose company I do not enjoy and make more time for those whose company I love. Five minutes once a week with someone that makes you happy is better than 10 hours with someone that you wish you hadn't accepted the invitation to see.
5. I will learn to be my own best friend again. A few years back, I got lonely and let some folk back into my life that have led to much crap, just so as to not be alone. Yet, I remember a time when alone just meant not having to consult anyone and doing exactly what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. I need to remember that alone can not only be okay, it can be awesome and peaceful.
6. When I do feel the need to get out of my cave and mix with the general populace, I'm going to investigate doing this in venues that play to my interests, therefore maybe bringing some new local folk into my life with similar interests that might help eliminate problems mentioned in #'s 1-5.
7. If I don't get in permanently with the place I'm working now by July (my 2 year anniversary), then I'm going to make a concerted effort to gain letters of recommendation from everyone who has complimented my work and requested me personally and I'm going to make a whole-hearted project of getting in somewhere else. [But I hope I get in here, because I really love it here.]
8. My writing needs to become more of a priority. And I'm going to start working more regularly on my original stuff and stop telling myself there's no point because I'll never get published. I accept that I may never get published but I certainly won't if I never write the damn thing in the first place. I also need to update my lj more regularly, if only to say Hi once in awhile.
9. I will not let what other friends have done to me in the past stop me from being a friend to those who've never hurt me. When I broke my ankle, I learned that some friends that I thought were closest to me were only close when I was doing for them. And I learned that some people cared about me more than I ever knew. I used to be an awesome friend before I had it beat out of me with sticks and hatchets. I can be that good of a friend again. And I will be.
10. I will travel more because I love it. I will not let the fact that I have nobody to do it with scare me out of wandering as far as finances will allow.
And I'm doing this on LJ so I can't lose the list when I lose the will to follow through.
Here are the requisite Resolutions 10 Things I Need To Try This Year (and Yoda can blow me because sometimes there is indeed a try):
1. I'm going to stop doing things just because I think I ought to. For example, just because I think I ought to get out more, I'm not going to bloody go out (usually with people I don't want to be with going to places I didn't really want to go) when all I really wanted to do was stay in and relax.
2. My time and my feelings are as valuable and legitimate as those of my friends and family and those who do not treat me as well as I treat them do not need to benefit from generosity that they do not reciprocate. When I put up with that, I wind up feeling bitter and it's my own damn fault.
3. I need to shake myself out of this post leg-breaky ennui and get physical again. The ankle led to a set back on the weight front. But I can fix that if I just get off my butt and do something about it.
4. I need to lessen contact with those whose company I do not enjoy and make more time for those whose company I love. Five minutes once a week with someone that makes you happy is better than 10 hours with someone that you wish you hadn't accepted the invitation to see.
5. I will learn to be my own best friend again. A few years back, I got lonely and let some folk back into my life that have led to much crap, just so as to not be alone. Yet, I remember a time when alone just meant not having to consult anyone and doing exactly what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. I need to remember that alone can not only be okay, it can be awesome and peaceful.
6. When I do feel the need to get out of my cave and mix with the general populace, I'm going to investigate doing this in venues that play to my interests, therefore maybe bringing some new local folk into my life with similar interests that might help eliminate problems mentioned in #'s 1-5.
7. If I don't get in permanently with the place I'm working now by July (my 2 year anniversary), then I'm going to make a concerted effort to gain letters of recommendation from everyone who has complimented my work and requested me personally and I'm going to make a whole-hearted project of getting in somewhere else. [But I hope I get in here, because I really love it here.]
8. My writing needs to become more of a priority. And I'm going to start working more regularly on my original stuff and stop telling myself there's no point because I'll never get published. I accept that I may never get published but I certainly won't if I never write the damn thing in the first place. I also need to update my lj more regularly, if only to say Hi once in awhile.
9. I will not let what other friends have done to me in the past stop me from being a friend to those who've never hurt me. When I broke my ankle, I learned that some friends that I thought were closest to me were only close when I was doing for them. And I learned that some people cared about me more than I ever knew. I used to be an awesome friend before I had it beat out of me with sticks and hatchets. I can be that good of a friend again. And I will be.
10. I will travel more because I love it. I will not let the fact that I have nobody to do it with scare me out of wandering as far as finances will allow.
And I'm doing this on LJ so I can't lose the list when I lose the will to follow through.