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[gygaxis]

In random world events within my own world, Caity's living up north for the time being dealing with family crisis, I finally found a new place to live after 3 weeks being homeless thanks to asshole January landlord who owes me close to $1000, and classes are kicking my ass since I spent so much time house hunting this term

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[stormry]

28. Stay away from pornography. Most rapists love it. That should be a danger sign.

Shit dude, you're a fucking rapist cause you look at more porn than damn near anyone I know.

Seriously though, funny list, get it from cracked.com?

[stormry]

also:

44. Do not forward around emails to people telling them what women should do to prevent themselves from being raped. Women have never, and will never be able to stop the phenomena of rape

That is fucking asinine. That's like saying I cannot stop the "phenomena of robbery", meanwhile, i sure as fuck can take some pretty big steps towards not letting myself be victimized. Does that mean it's my fault if I still am? Fuck no, but I can sure as fuck stop it sometimes.

[aranka]

It's a little harsh, but the point is, its a really annoying thing to always have to think about. And the lists they send around about personal safety are pretty fucking annoying and suggest that if you don't follow to the letter and something does happen you're to blame. Me and a friend were attacked (unsuccessfully) walking home together covered head to toe on a decently populated well lit street. Not our fault. The guy just flipped out. But no one's going to say that a victim of robbery deserved it because they failed to purchase an alarm or had a window on the first floor. Had the guy in our case been successful the first thing a defense attorney or police would say would be, "well why were you girls out after 8pm? That's just inviting trouble."

[stormry]

Well that's a completely different problem with society's view on rape. Rape is a violent crime and should be treated as such. Just like robbery, assault, or murder. I don't think the victim is to blame in any of those situations. But it's also completely asinine to say the victim "have never, and will never be able to stop" those crimes. That's just turning the victims into bigger victims. Unless you're Terry Schiavo, you're not that powerless over your own life, and knowing how to protect yourself, or at least diminish risk is certainly possible. Again, failing to do so does NOT make it the victim's fault, but let's not say the victim is completely helpless, that's just even more insulting to the victim in my opinion.

[aranka]

Yeah the "have never, and will never" was extreme and ambiguous. That said, having been through the very early stages of litigation for sexual assault a few times ... it may be a horrible crime but its not dealt with the same way any other horrible crime is. They will ask you some really ... rather bitchy questions, and if you answer in the negative they often assume you're lying. So it is kinda a double victimization. I agree that everyone should be aware of their situation and reasonably protect themselves but ... basically that's where things begin and end with rape which ... is hardly fair. A family of a murder victim can reasonably expect the murderer will see trial. A rape victim cannot. So rape punishment and protection is put almost exclusively on the shoulders of the victim.