A concept to practice
Instead of telling someone I am sorry, tell them I am grateful for them.
People don't want to respond to I am sorry. It puts them in the awkward position of having to comfort me for feeling bad about discomforting them. It heaps being annoying on top of whatever else I did wrong
So instead of "I am sorry to be late, the blah blah blah", I could say, "I am sorry if I made you feel disrespected when I didn't get here in time. I am grateful for your patience."
Being grateful about someone being nice is likely to make everyone happier about the situation, assuming you aren't actually taking them for granted and/or trying to manipulate them (because, for example, you actually DON'T respect them.)
I got stuck on the tardy example there, but the idea is good. Express gratitude for the person you've inconvenienced rather than begging forgiveness.
I heard anything another thought with jotting down: when eating for celebration, how much food do I actually need to make it a celebration? Can I go on vacation and not over eat? How much of a drink is actually worth the calories? Basically, is there any truth to the idea that I like to eat and drink too much? I need to think more about being mindful in social situations not just to eat less, but to also enjoy the situation more.
People don't want to respond to I am sorry. It puts them in the awkward position of having to comfort me for feeling bad about discomforting them. It heaps being annoying on top of whatever else I did wrong
So instead of "I am sorry to be late, the blah blah blah", I could say, "I am sorry if I made you feel disrespected when I didn't get here in time. I am grateful for your patience."
Being grateful about someone being nice is likely to make everyone happier about the situation, assuming you aren't actually taking them for granted and/or trying to manipulate them (because, for example, you actually DON'T respect them.)
I got stuck on the tardy example there, but the idea is good. Express gratitude for the person you've inconvenienced rather than begging forgiveness.
I heard anything another thought with jotting down: when eating for celebration, how much food do I actually need to make it a celebration? Can I go on vacation and not over eat? How much of a drink is actually worth the calories? Basically, is there any truth to the idea that I like to eat and drink too much? I need to think more about being mindful in social situations not just to eat less, but to also enjoy the situation more.