valid points, however I still think there should be more respect for the institution of marriage than to be able to marry and divorce at convenience. As far as getting married just because you are pregnant... well I'm not certain I agree that it's necessarily the "right" thing to do. It's true that in our society, unmarried parents are looked down upon, but I don't think that having a shotgun wedding is necessarily the right thing to do. Getting pregnant on accident is something that is actually pretty easily avoided (despite what the catholics like to tell their young), but then getting married because of it is only another mistake to add to the stack, because chances are, it's not gonna work out. I think that both parents being in a child's life IS the right thing to do even if they never got married, and may actually both end up with someone else. In fact, it would be less painful for kids to have just never had their parents being married than to have them married and go through their divorce when they are six. Trust me, I know. I don't remember my parents ever being married. A single parent household is all I've known. But having friends who have suffered through a parental divorce, I see what it does to them, and I'm glad I didn't have to go through that pain.
As a child who grew up in a one parent household after a divorce, I myself never felt cheated from having a father. My mom was an excellent parent and raised three kids very well completely on her own (physically and financially). And I don't resent my mom for divorcing my dad. he was verbally and physically abusive and was also a severe alcoholic and chain smoker (a real gem for sure).
When it comes down to it, I still think that there should be respect for marriage, and two people should know what the hell they are doing before they get married.
As a child who grew up in a one parent household after a divorce, I myself never felt cheated from having a father. My mom was an excellent parent and raised three kids very well completely on her own (physically and financially). And I don't resent my mom for divorcing my dad. he was verbally and physically abusive and was also a severe alcoholic and chain smoker (a real gem for sure).
When it comes down to it, I still think that there should be respect for marriage, and two people should know what the hell they are doing before they get married.
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