It's Tuesday and Mercury is in Retrograde...
So, my darling friends and flistians, come with me for a moment and we will engage in a visualization exercise.
Just for a moment, imagine that you a A Guy.
You, being A Guy, are browsing a dating site and come across the profile of a young lady who you had the opportunity to go out with about six months ago. You went out with the young lady (although it wasn't a date, as you took great pains to explain to her over lunch. It was just a meeting, between friends to see if there was any chemistry!) and afterwards, despite indicating that you'd like to take her out again, you never heard from her ever again.
Now, do you:
1. Take her silence as an indication that she is not interested in seeing you anymore and hit the 'back' button to go look at other profiles.
2. Send her an email dropping a friendly hello to see how she's doing.
If you answered 1. then you are not Mr. 'No, I'm Not Bitter About My Ex, Why Do You Ask?'.
Does that name sound familiar? It should. I think I ranted about him and others in this entry.
Seriously, what is he expecting me to do? Who does HE think he's doing? Graciously granting me a second chance at seeing him? Don't knock yourself out doing me any favors, Buddy.
Actually, I don't think that's his motivation. I think he's one of those obnoxiously Reasonable Guys. You know, the ones who feel that they're always being Perfectly Reasonable no matterwhat they say, how they insult your intelligence, or gouge at your self esteem. The ones who just seem to lack a certain amount of empathy. They're not necessarily mean and they're not doing it on purpose, but they're definitely not anyone I want to spend more time with than I have to.
I'm just going to ignore his email, I think. I feel like maybe I should write him back explaining why I didn't contact him again and why I'd like him to go explore new horizons. Possibly add some dating advice, namely: a first date, 'friendly meeting', or whatever is probably not the place to complain about your live-in girlfriend who you broke up with sex weeks ago.
Just for a moment, imagine that you a A Guy.
You, being A Guy, are browsing a dating site and come across the profile of a young lady who you had the opportunity to go out with about six months ago. You went out with the young lady (although it wasn't a date, as you took great pains to explain to her over lunch. It was just a meeting, between friends to see if there was any chemistry!) and afterwards, despite indicating that you'd like to take her out again, you never heard from her ever again.
Now, do you:
1. Take her silence as an indication that she is not interested in seeing you anymore and hit the 'back' button to go look at other profiles.
2. Send her an email dropping a friendly hello to see how she's doing.
If you answered 1. then you are not Mr. 'No, I'm Not Bitter About My Ex, Why Do You Ask?'.
Does that name sound familiar? It should. I think I ranted about him and others in this entry.
Seriously, what is he expecting me to do? Who does HE think he's doing? Graciously granting me a second chance at seeing him? Don't knock yourself out doing me any favors, Buddy.
Actually, I don't think that's his motivation. I think he's one of those obnoxiously Reasonable Guys. You know, the ones who feel that they're always being Perfectly Reasonable no matterwhat they say, how they insult your intelligence, or gouge at your self esteem. The ones who just seem to lack a certain amount of empathy. They're not necessarily mean and they're not doing it on purpose, but they're definitely not anyone I want to spend more time with than I have to.
I'm just going to ignore his email, I think. I feel like maybe I should write him back explaining why I didn't contact him again and why I'd like him to go explore new horizons. Possibly add some dating advice, namely: a first date, 'friendly meeting', or whatever is probably not the place to complain about your live-in girlfriend who you broke up with sex weeks ago.