I never once called you a liar. Never once called you a bad friend. In fact the only reason that whole fiasco even came up was because you decided to mention it.
I didn't care about it, had MORe than let it go. But found myself defending myself to you.
My friends are being just that, and dont mean a single word. They are trying to be supportive and cheer me up since you are not the only person going through extremely troubling times.
I find that when you are upset or hurt or on the defensive against the world you have, in the past, lashed out a bit at me... I know that almost every college break you and I have had some stupid petty meaningless argument that was unfounded and unnecessary. I did not want to argue with you, and that entry was written barely 5 minutes after you'd more or less told me to fuck off and blocked me on aim. And I knew, because I was so upset and hurt at the time that I checked... Which threw me into a fit m'self.
I hate arguing with friends. But that conversation was one sided.. You didn't want to hear my side and assumed you were 100% right. I even mentioned that if I misinterperated his meaning that I would be willing to accept that. But just because you dont feel you're wrong doesn't mean you aren't... And its pretty shitty that instead of being willing to listen you just wanted to take shots at me and make it worse.
Thats how it feels over here. While I stare at your away message now that I'm unblocked and have NO idea what the hell to even say to you.
To feel "threatened" by me and my friends is a bit overdramatic, however, since you know me well enough that I would never do anything to hurt you and my friends are a bit too busy to deal with such ridiculous matters.
They were being friends and simply that. Tell me yours have never done the same.
My friends support me, sure, and take my side, but never threaten people out of turn.
I think you're completely right that it was a one-sided conversation, but will have to disagree with you on which side it was on. I felt completely railroaded that entire conversation. Whether or not you intended to, that was how I felt. And of course you'd never be so coarse as to call me a liar or a bad friend out loud, but the strong implications were there. That's generally what the "all but called me a liar/bad friend" means.
I did bring it up. You are absolutely right about that. But I know for a fact all I said was "just don't make fun of my friend again." You're the one who proceeded to threaten him, and berate me for the company I keep. When I acted (rightfully) confused you tore into me for not remembering your version of events. If I missed something you should have told me, none of this mess.
This is a shitty fight over nothing, but if you are so hurt by it that you have nothing to say to me anymore then I am not going to try.
You are not however, being victimized by my "lashing out" and I'd prefer if you didn't treat it that way. You provoked me needlessly and I acted accordingly-- I could not handle talking to you anymore so I blocked you. I admitted, without being asked, that I could have handled it better, and didn't. Is it really necessarily to rub my face in it?
You spoke your mind. I just did mine, devoid of emotions and anger. It was in no way "rubbing your face in it" and was in every way me simply laying the cards on the table.
I will however say that you never acted "confused" and were completely confidant in your side of the story and pov. You at no time gave any hint that you'd be willing to accept any view of the story aside from your own.
But I'm seriously done doing the back and forth over this... Its bullshit meaningless crap and neither of us have time for it.
So I hope everything is going well for you, and hopefully sometime in the future you and I can have a conversation that doesn't dissolve into this petty crud.
'Fraid not. I think I know how my end went (I'm pretty oblivious sometimes, but what you're suggesting is ridiculous) and I was pretty confused. Whether "you're done with it" or not is no longer my concern. But if you must have the Parthian shot, keep in mind that when you're trying to convince someone of anything, starting out by threatening the lives and wellbeing of their friends is probably not the greatest way to do so.
I didn't care about it, had MORe than let it go. But found myself defending myself to you.
My friends are being just that, and dont mean a single word. They are trying to be supportive and cheer me up since you are not the only person going through extremely troubling times.
I find that when you are upset or hurt or on the defensive against the world you have, in the past, lashed out a bit at me... I know that almost every college break you and I have had some stupid petty meaningless argument that was unfounded and unnecessary.
I did not want to argue with you, and that entry was written barely 5 minutes after you'd more or less told me to fuck off and blocked me on aim. And I knew, because I was so upset and hurt at the time that I checked... Which threw me into a fit m'self.
I hate arguing with friends. But that conversation was one sided.. You didn't want to hear my side and assumed you were 100% right. I even mentioned that if I misinterperated his meaning that I would be willing to accept that. But just because you dont feel you're wrong doesn't mean you aren't... And its pretty shitty that instead of being willing to listen you just wanted to take shots at me and make it worse.
Thats how it feels over here. While I stare at your away message now that I'm unblocked and have NO idea what the hell to even say to you.
To feel "threatened" by me and my friends is a bit overdramatic, however, since you know me well enough that I would never do anything to hurt you and my friends are a bit too busy to deal with such ridiculous matters.
They were being friends and simply that. Tell me yours have never done the same.
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I think you're completely right that it was a one-sided conversation, but will have to disagree with you on which side it was on. I felt completely railroaded that entire conversation. Whether or not you intended to, that was how I felt. And of course you'd never be so coarse as to call me a liar or a bad friend out loud, but the strong implications were there. That's generally what the "all but called me a liar/bad friend" means.
I did bring it up. You are absolutely right about that. But I know for a fact all I said was "just don't make fun of my friend again." You're the one who proceeded to threaten him, and berate me for the company I keep. When I acted (rightfully) confused you tore into me for not remembering your version of events. If I missed something you should have told me, none of this mess.
This is a shitty fight over nothing, but if you are so hurt by it that you have nothing to say to me anymore then I am not going to try.
You are not however, being victimized by my "lashing out" and I'd prefer if you didn't treat it that way. You provoked me needlessly and I acted accordingly-- I could not handle talking to you anymore so I blocked you. I admitted, without being asked, that I could have handled it better, and didn't. Is it really necessarily to rub my face in it?
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I will however say that you never acted "confused" and were completely confidant in your side of the story and pov. You at no time gave any hint that you'd be willing to accept any view of the story aside from your own.
But I'm seriously done doing the back and forth over this... Its bullshit meaningless crap and neither of us have time for it.
So I hope everything is going well for you, and hopefully sometime in the future you and I can have a conversation that doesn't dissolve into this petty crud.
be well
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take care.
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