huh
I was totally shocked by two things in my conversation with my boychild last night. He called me from his grandmother's (on his dad's side) house. Now he just got back from Wolf Creek, so he is on this awesome Pagan Dancing In The Woods With Fairies high, which is awesome to hear, but. He called this time to let me know he had spent the last hour yelling at his father about a fight he had with his mom (jas' grandma). When I finally asked what this fight was about, Jas told me that Nett (grandma) mentioned the word that sets Jason (dad) off. CHOICE. It took me a minute to figure out what he was even talking about but then I realized that Nett must have told Jason that his being gay was something he chose. And Jasper agreed??
I was literally sitting there with my mouth hanging open. Wha Wha What?
Ok now that I think about it, three things shocked me.
#1. Lynette is still fighting with Jason and getting offended that he is gay. Really lady?? Really?? You couldn't fight with him about how he has a son that he has been totally ignoring his whole life? You couldn't be pissed about that CHOICE???
#2. My SON believes that being gay is something that you choose. WHAT?? His argument is that him being here is proof of it. Which I guess would make some sense if you didn't know the circumstance behind him being here. It's not like Jason and I were dating for years and then one day he was like....I think I am going to sleep with men now. He has been out since he was REALLY young, but came to a point in his life where he wanted to make sure that was really what was in his heart and mind. So he asked his hussy friend (me) to try it out. We made Jasper, then he went back to being with men. That's it.
PLUS......given how a good portion of society treats gay folk, why in the hell would they CHOOSE it if they could help it??
Now..that being said. I truly believe for some people that there is some choice involved. Personally, I chose my husband. I have had relationships on both sides of the fence and I am lucky to be able to feel that open. I have always chosen my partners based on WHO they are and our chemistry, not on gender, race, etc. But just as there are men who are only attracted to women, there are men who are only attracted to men. Same with the ladies. When it comes down to it, I don't think you really can help who you are attracted to.
I think this is a conversation he and I need to have in person.
Ok...ready for my last shock?
#3. I agreed with Jason.
I hate him. Like H A T E. He has made my life difficult in every possible way by just continuing to exist. Living a few blocks from your child and never doing anything with him or for him unless forced. Ok...nevermind. I was going to start a list of all his transgressions, but we would be here a very long time and it would put me in a shit mood for the day. Let it just be known that if it were legal in any way, I would have killed him years ago. With my bare hands. That's how much rage I have towards that waste of space.
But holy shit.
I agree with him.
Just on this. For the rest of life he is useless.