From Fangasm's latest post about 9x13 (thank you L!). Yes. This so reflects what I was trying to say... Snippets below that echoed what I was trying to say...
"It’s the appeal of the tangled, twisted, dysfunctional relationship between the brothers that hooked many fans on the Show...
“If Sam & Dean were real people I would agree completely. But, I probably wouldn’t have this ridiculous obsession with their show if they were so emotionally healthy.”
“The core of SPN is Sam & Dean doing anything and everything for each other. It isn’t healthy, but Dean and Sam’s messed up relationship is why SPN packs such an emotional punch.”
“It’s that part of the Show that draws me in. In real life, I help real people… When I’m watching the Show, though, I thrive on the emotional mess and co-dependence. Oh the joyful guilt.”
"Do we all want someone to love us like Dean loves Sam? Someone who will throw the entire universe under the bus just to save us, because we are just that important? In reality, no. Most of us aren’t that cavalier about the universe. In fantasy? Hell yes.
"As Sera said, then they were “falling all over themselves to save each other”. Not just Dean saving Sam. I remember Sam’s impassioned “You save my life over and over - you sacrifice everything for me. Don’t you think I’d do the same for you? You’re my big brother - there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for you.” Sam would have done anything then. Tried to - with crossroads deals, demon alliances, even a readiness to kill Bobby to get Dean back in ‘Mystery Spot.’
Read more... (Love the BTS photos of the Js enjoying themselves during filming of 9x13.)