Tell Greywing: It's a date.

[greywing]

What is your idea of a fun date? Do you have an idea of an "ideal" date? Do you lean toward laidback dates? Adventurous date activities? Swanky dates? Travel dates? Do you plan your dates? Or go with the flow

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[arbitrary_greay]

I have a not-a-date story as well. XD (We can compile them into a "Curse of the Oblivious People" thing)

This was within the first few months at college, so people had pretty much grouped into who they had encountered on the first day. Among these was a boy who randomly called me one night..and just invited me to climb the magnolia tree in the dorm quad and hang out with him there. And I mean it, this call was out of nowhere. So my reaction was all "Um, wtf, but okay?" and I did end up hanging out with him for a little while. I think I probably had this "Wtf this was really random" aura about me the entire time, though, which was probably bad. This same boy was also all "I wanna sit by you!" at a restaurant birthday party later, so it's a good chance there were some feelings on his part that I completely didn't respond to. XD

Anyways, I stopped hanging out with this group of people,(for other reasons) he hooked up with the girlfriend of another boy in this group, DRAMZ happened as a result of that that I was completely not a part of,(and unaware of except for what bits they chose to tell me) and he and the other guy were slated to room together the next semester. Awkward. But by that next semester I think they had worked it out? They seemed fine, anyways.

But yeah, that's me, completely avoiding all relationship drama by virtue of cluelessness. XD

[greywing]

Poor guy. But he didn't make a move. Would you have been interested if he had?

I'm usually completely oblivious in that exat same way, but I finally landed in a case where it was nearly impossible to be oblivious. It's kind of the consequence that you have a filter to sense any sexual tension when your first meeting is based on the intention to see if you're romantically compatible. XD Otherwise, almost every other romantic overture someone has offered me has gone over my head until they were straightforward with me. XD

You can be collateral damage in someone else's relationship drama (two of your friends who are dating on the outs and having to either "choose sides" or lay low), but you need to be in a relationship to get stuck in drama in the first place. XD Trust me, you're not missing out on much. Unless it's fun drama. (And now you will ask me if there is fun drama. Yes, I think there can be. XD)

[arbitrary_greay]

The random-hanging-out-in-a-tree could be construed as a date-ish and/or making a move, as well as the declarations of wanting to sit next to me, even if the latter is like the grade school equivalent of making a move.
Sure, I'd have been interested. But not sure if that would have been out of idle curiosity or hoping to develop romantic feelings along the way. XD It wasn't a situation where I wanted to date him, but that's just me not seeking out anyone as a partner, not where I would reject an offer.

That period of time was when ffa was still doing brisk business in chat, so it's not like I was that bothered by not being a part of the drama. XD

What does fun drama entail?

[greywing]

Well, since you weren't sure, he wasn't really making a move. In my opinion, "making a move" is usually something very indicative of interest: asking someone on a date, going in for a kiss. Explicit. XD

For science!(?)

Fun drama involves teasing. Lots and lots of teasing. (This is mostly fun for the teaser, though I like to think the other side has fun too. It's a matter of delayed gratification, you see. XD)

[arbitrary_greay]

Ahahahaha, yeah, I do wonder if I'll end up treating dating clinically. Given my tendencies for food in that I gotta sample everything...

Do I sense minor uke/seme dynamics here?

[greywing]

That's a subject appropriate for a more, er, private forum. XD