I Want to Be That Ideal Girlfriend
I have imagined and always hoped for a guy who would love me for who I am, appreciate me for what I do, and be proud of having me as his girl.
At least when someone asks him about his girlfriend, he can proudly tell that person, " She is all I can ask for."
This guy needs to see my good points more than my bad ones, and even love my bad points nevertheless. This is inspired by my brother who told me that loving a person is when you also love and accept all of her flaws and accept her for who she is.
I wonder at times what it means that I don't fit his set of criteria for an ideal girlfriend, and yet he still chooses me. The feelings? The connections? Are all these enough to sustain a relationship for long? Are these sufficient to keep the love going, to keep the guy in love? Will they be too vulnerable against quarrels that may arise due to fact I am not his "ideal"?
The thing is I don't like to be pressured to change. Even if the guy never ask me to change directly, the indirect pressure that I am not his ideal haunts me. It makes me want to meet his expectations. But why do I have to do this to keep him?
I'm feeling myself fighting hard to get his approval and for my own validation.
Maybe love should not be like that.
I want to be someone's ideal, by just being me.
At least when someone asks him about his girlfriend, he can proudly tell that person, " She is all I can ask for."
This guy needs to see my good points more than my bad ones, and even love my bad points nevertheless. This is inspired by my brother who told me that loving a person is when you also love and accept all of her flaws and accept her for who she is.
I wonder at times what it means that I don't fit his set of criteria for an ideal girlfriend, and yet he still chooses me. The feelings? The connections? Are all these enough to sustain a relationship for long? Are these sufficient to keep the love going, to keep the guy in love? Will they be too vulnerable against quarrels that may arise due to fact I am not his "ideal"?
The thing is I don't like to be pressured to change. Even if the guy never ask me to change directly, the indirect pressure that I am not his ideal haunts me. It makes me want to meet his expectations. But why do I have to do this to keep him?
I'm feeling myself fighting hard to get his approval and for my own validation.
Maybe love should not be like that.
I want to be someone's ideal, by just being me.