What I want out a a wedding
I was just reading an article that was posted on livejouranl by a friend of mine about starter marriages. Anyway it got me to thinking about something that I realized a while ago about my current relationship. I think the point where I really realized that the whole dress, party, ring was really not that important to me. I mean yes I have some standards for the ring and I want some kind of pretty dress and a party but if I did not have all of that and what I had instead was the happy life long commitment that I share with one other person who truly loves me well thats well worth the trade. I think that I am going to fortunate enough to have the later with at least a bit of the first. The thing is I was just looking at my boyfriend when I realized that really if we could be this happy for the rest of our lives then I would just do it. In fact I think the whole idea of actually having the ceremony is what scares the crap out of me. I mean you have to look perfect and plan all this stuff and a nice place with great food and you have to pick among your friends to be in your bridal party and then there are the guests you have to invite all of these people that your parents know or are some how related to you even though you never see them. Then you have to scrounge up the money to have them come and your friends (who you actually want there). You have to find music entertainment and well all of the little crap that goes along with it. My parents lately have said that they really am glad that I am happy and with my boyfriend but they wish that we would just do it right and get married. I think that right now I really don't know where I would begin to plan all of that or where I would find the money. After helping with the work and watching all the of the planning that my boyfriends family had to go through for his sisters wedding and on the day of the wedding even though every thing was great and going according to plan we both thought Vegas looked good. And all we did was help with the party favors and get everything ready for the breakfast. The way that I feel that my deal with comment and being scared differs from these women is that I really am not afraid of commitment but of the idea of overwhelming planing. The thing is if you take away the party and the plans we would have the same thing that we have right now and I love that. I really love just the way we get along together and coming home to each other. We still have fun and go do things together. We are single and I think we still act like we hang out with friends and have fun. None of that has to stop when a person gets married. If the foundations is solid then I think the house will stand.