Oh, please, do tell me more about my own upbringing!
I think it's hilarious when people who grew up with siblings make the assumption, i.e., tell me to my face, that only-children are "spoiled" and "anti-social."
I've heard:
"Weren't you lonely growing up?"
" They never learn how to share."
...and some random bullshit about not knowing how to communicate properly.
Oh, yeah, and apparently we also have a "sense of entitlement" and are prone to temper tantrums as kids.
Really?
Because, just from my point of view, people who grew up with siblings:
Were more manipulative
Formed cliques
Had a near obsession with "fairness" i.e., making sure they had their 50% (or more if they could get away with it) share of everything.
Prone to temper tantrums when their "fairness" deal didn't work out.
And don't even get me started on bossy older siblings, psychologically damaged middle children, and the prima donna baby.
I'm sorry, but most of the Only-Children I knew were quite mature, did better in school, and were more likely to have adult-like thinking and behavioral patterns because we didn't sit around fighting over the back seat with kids half our age every weekend!
And for everyone's info, we learned to share and socialize by sharing and socializing!
How? We had friends!
Unless you grew up in the middle of the woods, most of us had nearby neighbors to hang out with. And no, I'm not talking about the creepy old man standing in his driveway handing out Popsicles.
And I honestly never understood how having no brothers and sisters = spoiled.
When I do the math, spoiled = Bad Parenting.
There was no stamp on my ass that said "buy me whatever the hell I want on command until another offspring is produced." When you call us spoiled, you insult our mothers and fathers, grandmas and granddads.
If you ask me, the "spoiled" myth was spread by kids from large families who were just plain jealous because we have their "50% slice of life."
A bunch of haters if you ask me.
I've heard:
"Weren't you lonely growing up?"
" They never learn how to share."
...and some random bullshit about not knowing how to communicate properly.
Oh, yeah, and apparently we also have a "sense of entitlement" and are prone to temper tantrums as kids.
Really?
Because, just from my point of view, people who grew up with siblings:
Were more manipulative
Formed cliques
Had a near obsession with "fairness" i.e., making sure they had their 50% (or more if they could get away with it) share of everything.
Prone to temper tantrums when their "fairness" deal didn't work out.
And don't even get me started on bossy older siblings, psychologically damaged middle children, and the prima donna baby.
I'm sorry, but most of the Only-Children I knew were quite mature, did better in school, and were more likely to have adult-like thinking and behavioral patterns because we didn't sit around fighting over the back seat with kids half our age every weekend!
And for everyone's info, we learned to share and socialize by sharing and socializing!
How? We had friends!
Unless you grew up in the middle of the woods, most of us had nearby neighbors to hang out with. And no, I'm not talking about the creepy old man standing in his driveway handing out Popsicles.
And I honestly never understood how having no brothers and sisters = spoiled.
When I do the math, spoiled = Bad Parenting.
There was no stamp on my ass that said "buy me whatever the hell I want on command until another offspring is produced." When you call us spoiled, you insult our mothers and fathers, grandmas and granddads.
If you ask me, the "spoiled" myth was spread by kids from large families who were just plain jealous because we have their "50% slice of life."
A bunch of haters if you ask me.