and the randomness continues
Kay and I were having a discussion recently about relationships, and healthy ones versus unhealthy ones, and what needs to go into them and why and how other people's relationships just wouldn't work for us for various reasons. And it strongly reminded me of a discussion (and yes this time i really mean discussion and not argument/screaming match) with Graham about how all real love is very very selfish. In order for relationships to work and survive, each person has to be fiercely selfish. Take a guess which side of this argument Graham was on. But seriously if you think about it, I do things that I might not want to do because I want you to be happy. Because I don't' want to deal with your pissy attitude. And yes I probably want to genuinely want to see you be happy and do what you love and all, but in there there is a great need to just not have to deal with you when you're pissy with me, or upset and crying on me, or whatever it will be when you can't do things with me. And really, I want someone who likes what I like. I don't want to have a boyfriend that doesn't enjoy the things I like to do. I'm selfish (which may explain a lot about my relationships) but If I was constantly making compromises for a boy that doesn't do what I enjoy would the relationship really have lasted any longer? And because I want to be in a happy place with my significant other, I would work extra hard to make them happy. Because then it works out for both of us.
And before you all feel the need to point it out, i know at some point and time selfless is good, r that I'm a bitch and this is why I'll die single and alone, but really why shouldn't I want something that's going to work well for my life. Why should I have to compromise simply because some boy whined at me about how he's not happy. Should he not also be viciously selfish and realize that if i don't make him happy he should find someone else? Shouldn't he care more about his happiness than mine? If I want to be happy and will do what it takes to make me happy, and my boyfriend does what it takes to make him happy, shouldn't it either work out for both of us or not work out at all? Am I completely crazy on this one?
And just so we're all aware, these are the kinds of things I think about in order to keep from going crazy with all the weddings going on around me. Because let's face it it's been a while since I've had a boy of any sort. And most of you lovely people out there are hooked up. Or like half of you or whatever the percent is, and believe me I'm happy for you peeps, but seriously. No. More. Weddings.
Okay I love you BYE BYE!
And before you all feel the need to point it out, i know at some point and time selfless is good, r that I'm a bitch and this is why I'll die single and alone, but really why shouldn't I want something that's going to work well for my life. Why should I have to compromise simply because some boy whined at me about how he's not happy. Should he not also be viciously selfish and realize that if i don't make him happy he should find someone else? Shouldn't he care more about his happiness than mine? If I want to be happy and will do what it takes to make me happy, and my boyfriend does what it takes to make him happy, shouldn't it either work out for both of us or not work out at all? Am I completely crazy on this one?
And just so we're all aware, these are the kinds of things I think about in order to keep from going crazy with all the weddings going on around me. Because let's face it it's been a while since I've had a boy of any sort. And most of you lovely people out there are hooked up. Or like half of you or whatever the percent is, and believe me I'm happy for you peeps, but seriously. No. More. Weddings.
Okay I love you BYE BYE!