Resource Page: Choice Debate

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When I was pro-life

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Morally responsible and loving choice

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Utah Taliban: Keep your religion off my body

Can someone give this guy a logic transplant?

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Well, what if your mother had aborted you? How would you feel about that, huh?

It's a mystery to us why "pro-lifers" throw out this particular bit of nonsense on a regular basis. Again, how selfish is that--to believe that we're such special little snowflakes that the world would have come to a shuddering halt should we not have been born? What if our mothers had aborted us? We wouldn't have existed. So what? Things that don't exist have no opinions one way or another. To be blunt, it's a stupid and pointless argument and anyone who actually thinks that it's a good one deserves to be ridiculed.

So you just encourage women to sleep around and run down to the abortion clinic to rid themselves of the “inconvenience,” rather than taking responsibility for their actions, right?

Wrong. We encourage people simply to think before having sex, because a lot of nasty complications, both physical and emotional, would be avoided. But accidents do happen, and mistakes are made. Having children should not be used as “punishment” for a birth control failure or an error in judgment. Women who have had mental illnesses or problems with drugs or alcohol are often confronted with unwanted pregnancies, but we would much rather hear about a drug addict that had four abortions than a drug addict who had four children she neglected. But you know what would really reduce abortion rates? If parents taught their children to love themselves first and not depend on another person for their happiness. We need to teach kids that masturbation is a healthy sexual expression, that it’s not for “losers that can’t get any” or a sin, and is 100% guaranteed not to cause pregnancy or disease. We need to let them know that sex should never be taken lightly, that it is the most intimate thing that two human beings can do, and neither a man nor a woman should ever use it as a weapon or a trap.

So you killed an innocent child because you panicked and didn't give any thought to it at all, didn't you?

On the contrary. Considering how many girls and women spend more time thinking up creatively spelled names and and sighing dreamily over adorable little babies on TV than considering the realities of motherhood, we'd say that those of us who chose to abort have given the whole situation a lot of thought. We knew that a child born at this particular stage in our lives would not have a good life, whether it was due to finances, emotions, problems in our relationships, or other reasons. Some women have always known that they did not want to be mothers, but because doctors refused their requests for sterilization ("But you're so young! You've never had children! What if you change your mind?"), they take their chances with birth control failure, and sometimes they lose. And some of us know what we're going to do long before the specter of pregnancy is raised. We'd hardly call that panicking.