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[gratefuladdict]

Over time, I've tried to make peace with the idea that parenting has become an industry. The availability of information in this day and age means that there's often way too much information, shouting at you from every corner, with very few tools to help you discern what's true, and more importantly, what's right for your family

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[theafaye]

Has anybody discussed diet with you? Because Seth was a very angry little boy until we removed dairy from his diet. Gluten's also a trigger for him, but less so than dairy and you mentioning mac and cheese (which would be a massive no-no!) makes me wonder whether that wouldn't REALLY help calm him down. Within three days of going dairy free, Seth was so much calmer and at his age, it's easier to get him to eat other stuff than when he's older and eating habits are seriously entrenched.

I actually think you're perfect entitled to mourn. Let yourself feel. You'll move through that phase so much faster than if you try and repress those feelings. You don't have to be the perfect parent and it's OK to have days when you resent him and wish you didn't have the extra burden of autism on top of what is already a very difficult job.

And yes, a lot of the way in which so-called professionals deal with autistic children is to simply try and get them as socially conformist as possible, without really wondering whether this is the best or right thing or even the essential thing to do. We don't really worry about that any more, but then we don't have to deal with school, when that would really become the number one priority.

You know that if you ever need to talk about this with someone who's been there, I'm here <3