According to my mother: Things to say to the body police
Sometimes ignoring them will help, sometimes it encourages further abuse. Try not to fall in the trap of always returning an insult, as you can just get into a slanging match that teaches them nothing and drives you crazy. Sometimes, however it might be the only way to drive your point home.
Ask yourself not: "What can I do to make myself more acceptable?" but "what is the matter with that person that they need to judge me by their own insecurities and standards?"
People who are truly happy with themselves never bother to slag off other people. There is always a reason why you are being targeted and it has nothing to do with you. Laughing or smiling after people insult you can drive them crazy. It's a great way to show you don't take their uninformed judgement seriously.
They say: Your getting fat" (or putting on weight)
You say:
"No I am not, I am just growing"
"Who asked you?"
"Why are you trying to upset me?"
"I am not fat, I am me shaped"
"I'm growing, any objections?"
""anything else? Perhaps you could write it down for me so I don't forget?"
"How kind of you to say so"
"I have no intention of going on a stupid impossible diet just so you feel that your outdated prejudices are validated by pressuring me into action which would be counterproductive and unhealthy, thereby reinforcing the self-loathing recommended by you and your own fears. So hey, get a life dickbrain."
"And you're a real hearthrob"
"A bit fat for you, or a bit fat for me?"
"Why don't you grab your bottom lip and pull it over your head?"
"you have no right to comment on my body"
"Yes, thankyou I have put on weight and I feel great"
"I'm not worried about it so relax"
You're right. I guess I should become anorexic immediately. Would that be alright?"
"Are you trying to give me an eating disorder"
"What makes you so interested in my shape?"
"You can get a book from the library to explain what shape women are"
--Anne
Ask yourself not: "What can I do to make myself more acceptable?" but "what is the matter with that person that they need to judge me by their own insecurities and standards?"
People who are truly happy with themselves never bother to slag off other people. There is always a reason why you are being targeted and it has nothing to do with you. Laughing or smiling after people insult you can drive them crazy. It's a great way to show you don't take their uninformed judgement seriously.
They say: Your getting fat" (or putting on weight)
You say:
"No I am not, I am just growing"
"Who asked you?"
"Why are you trying to upset me?"
"I am not fat, I am me shaped"
"I'm growing, any objections?"
""anything else? Perhaps you could write it down for me so I don't forget?"
"How kind of you to say so"
"I have no intention of going on a stupid impossible diet just so you feel that your outdated prejudices are validated by pressuring me into action which would be counterproductive and unhealthy, thereby reinforcing the self-loathing recommended by you and your own fears. So hey, get a life dickbrain."
"And you're a real hearthrob"
"A bit fat for you, or a bit fat for me?"
"Why don't you grab your bottom lip and pull it over your head?"
"you have no right to comment on my body"
"Yes, thankyou I have put on weight and I feel great"
"I'm not worried about it so relax"
You're right. I guess I should become anorexic immediately. Would that be alright?"
"Are you trying to give me an eating disorder"
"What makes you so interested in my shape?"
"You can get a book from the library to explain what shape women are"
--Anne