DEAR MOM
Dear Mom,
I will be every part of mother to my son, that you were and never will be to me. I will listen to him. I will keep him in confidence. I will never betray his trust unless it means keeping him from bodily harm. I will be a parent. I will own up to my mistakes and be sencear about it when i say that I am sorry.
I told you before my son was born that if you could not show me respect and behave in from of my son that I would not hesitate to cut our ties. I have asked you many times in the past to please not do this or not to do that. You have gone against me and done this and that. You are not alert enough to attend to my son. You have demeaned me in front of my son and I belive this has caused him to do the same. This ends now.
Tonight you marginalized any thing I have done for you. You pulled the saint card. "ALL THE THINGS I WENT OUT OF THE WAY FOR you TO DO and this is how you act towards me?" yeah all the things you did for me. Nothing you have done recently has gone unnoticed I thanked you, I made sure you knew how I couldn't have gotten things done with out you. I have come to expect nothing from you and with good reason. If last week I were homeless for some odd reason I would not have expected a place to lay my head. If any thing bad were to have happen I would not expect you to be mentaly supportive.
I just asked you not to do one minute thing and you wouldn't even listen to me. Proving to me you have shit for brains for the last time. I have finely came to the realization you do not respect me and in return you get none from me. You have hurt me on more then one occation and even the littlest things have built up. I guess I am to blame for letting you do this to me repeativly in life. I drove you home instead of leaving you 4 ish miles from home in Petersburg because if i did i would have felt i was as bas as you. You push and push and push.
I have only let this go on so long so that my son could know his grand mother. Tonight on the way home he whittnesed me crying on the way home. He asked me why mommy was mad. Johnithan is very smart and very observant unlike you. He asked questions and I explained why I was sad. I asked him how he felt. He was mad and sad. An almost 3 year old asking questions who understood me better then a 67-ish year old lady!
Honestly if i know you you'll go tell all my sibblings what a horrid daughter I am for fighting back and defending why I was angry. It's not the simple fact that you did some thing i asked you not to do ... its that you don't respect me enough to listen and consider how I may feel nor the fact that you did this in front of my son. And the cherry to top it off with I said i was leaving... not going to the 2nd floor like i had said before you went against my wishes once more ignoring me. Hell I waited 15 mins in the car for you. I should have just left.
But I didn't I did however procced to tell you to get in the car from the door because my son was in his seat and no way in hell was i going to leave him. Then you demanded to get in so you could yell at me for being cruel and for what reason? I was not the cruel one I didn't go out of my way to go against your wishes. I let you in I took you home like a dutiful daughter.. Your only my mother in name only from this point on. I don't want ANY THING from you. I won't expect it. I also wont accept it. I won't allow you to have control over any part of my life. If you really want to see your grandson ever again you will listen to me, you will treat me with respect, you will not counterdict me in front of him and you will not be allowed to see him as frequent as you have in the past because I love him enough to put his needs over others.
the end.
k-
P.S. Don't worry about visiting next week or even when i have my physical i will find some one who wants to visit with him some one i know and trust and some one who respects my wishes. ANd if you really want to come for his birthday do not agita... actually just don't come I want my son to enjoy his birthday and i want our guest to enjoy there time here as well. It about him not about our mother daughter issues.
I will be every part of mother to my son, that you were and never will be to me. I will listen to him. I will keep him in confidence. I will never betray his trust unless it means keeping him from bodily harm. I will be a parent. I will own up to my mistakes and be sencear about it when i say that I am sorry.
I told you before my son was born that if you could not show me respect and behave in from of my son that I would not hesitate to cut our ties. I have asked you many times in the past to please not do this or not to do that. You have gone against me and done this and that. You are not alert enough to attend to my son. You have demeaned me in front of my son and I belive this has caused him to do the same. This ends now.
Tonight you marginalized any thing I have done for you. You pulled the saint card. "ALL THE THINGS I WENT OUT OF THE WAY FOR you TO DO and this is how you act towards me?" yeah all the things you did for me. Nothing you have done recently has gone unnoticed I thanked you, I made sure you knew how I couldn't have gotten things done with out you. I have come to expect nothing from you and with good reason. If last week I were homeless for some odd reason I would not have expected a place to lay my head. If any thing bad were to have happen I would not expect you to be mentaly supportive.
I just asked you not to do one minute thing and you wouldn't even listen to me. Proving to me you have shit for brains for the last time. I have finely came to the realization you do not respect me and in return you get none from me. You have hurt me on more then one occation and even the littlest things have built up. I guess I am to blame for letting you do this to me repeativly in life. I drove you home instead of leaving you 4 ish miles from home in Petersburg because if i did i would have felt i was as bas as you. You push and push and push.
I have only let this go on so long so that my son could know his grand mother. Tonight on the way home he whittnesed me crying on the way home. He asked me why mommy was mad. Johnithan is very smart and very observant unlike you. He asked questions and I explained why I was sad. I asked him how he felt. He was mad and sad. An almost 3 year old asking questions who understood me better then a 67-ish year old lady!
Honestly if i know you you'll go tell all my sibblings what a horrid daughter I am for fighting back and defending why I was angry. It's not the simple fact that you did some thing i asked you not to do ... its that you don't respect me enough to listen and consider how I may feel nor the fact that you did this in front of my son. And the cherry to top it off with I said i was leaving... not going to the 2nd floor like i had said before you went against my wishes once more ignoring me. Hell I waited 15 mins in the car for you. I should have just left.
But I didn't I did however procced to tell you to get in the car from the door because my son was in his seat and no way in hell was i going to leave him. Then you demanded to get in so you could yell at me for being cruel and for what reason? I was not the cruel one I didn't go out of my way to go against your wishes. I let you in I took you home like a dutiful daughter.. Your only my mother in name only from this point on. I don't want ANY THING from you. I won't expect it. I also wont accept it. I won't allow you to have control over any part of my life. If you really want to see your grandson ever again you will listen to me, you will treat me with respect, you will not counterdict me in front of him and you will not be allowed to see him as frequent as you have in the past because I love him enough to put his needs over others.
the end.
k-
P.S. Don't worry about visiting next week or even when i have my physical i will find some one who wants to visit with him some one i know and trust and some one who respects my wishes. ANd if you really want to come for his birthday do not agita... actually just don't come I want my son to enjoy his birthday and i want our guest to enjoy there time here as well. It about him not about our mother daughter issues.