*PLEASE READ THIS*
Ok, Becca just sent this to me and I thought it would be a good idea to spread the word. Look, I know rape isn't a big deal to most of you but when it's somehow brought into your life it becomes a pretty big deal. And please don't ask me why I care so much about this. If you don't know then it's none of your business. Anyway... here's the email. Please copy it into your ljs.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
This is important information for women of all ages. Guys - please
forward to the female members of your family and all your female
friends and associates.
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady
friends. I forwarded to most everyone in my address book.
My men friends have female friends and this is too important of
information to miss someone.
Please pass it along. Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid
or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely
to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are
off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is
in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking
lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close
to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,
like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it
is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a
target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked
to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an
EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this
guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching
yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin... I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible.. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see
any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may
feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy
really was trouble.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
This is important information for women of all ages. Guys - please
forward to the female members of your family and all your female
friends and associates.
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady
friends. I forwarded to most everyone in my address book.
My men friends have female friends and this is too important of
information to miss someone.
Please pass it along. Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid
or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely
to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are
off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is
in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking
lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close
to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,
like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it
is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a
target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked
to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an
EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this
guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching
yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin... I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible.. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see
any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may
feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy
really was trouble.