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I've been thinking about making this post for awhile. I'm just now getting some time and clarity to my thoughts. Before becoming a parent I used to think that some parents dont give their children enough distance. This sounds cold but you know how you hear of parents who let their children sleep in their bed till they are 6, 7 years old. Parents who dont use any day care until their child is going to kindergarten because they dont think their child can handle being away from them. My perspective has always been that children need to have some independence and socialization with peers. Also, that the parents need to have their own lives, ie working with their own peers. The idea that a good healthy parent is still accomplishing their own goals while helping their child find their way. I'm not saying that parents like described above are bad or that their children dont turn out great. This is my perspective on parenting.
Well, I think my first challenge, besides lack of sleep, is learning how to let go. For the last 4 months Izzy has been with me pretty much 24/7 (and of course the 9 months beforehand). Sure, we have had nights out where he has stayed with grandparents. I've been fine with this. More recently we have been discussing some upcoming occasions that will keep me from Izzy for the whole day. Potentially, the distance could have been a couple days. This has stressed me out. It has nothing to do with the adequacy of the care he will get when I am not around. I have two thoughts surrounding this difficulty; physical closeness and overpowering love. It is hard for me not to have him next to me because he is so much a part of me and my life. Then there is the emotional connection. This new love in my life cures all ailments. The crappiest days and moments disappear once he smiles or turns in my direction when he hears my voice.
Well, I think my first challenge, besides lack of sleep, is learning how to let go. For the last 4 months Izzy has been with me pretty much 24/7 (and of course the 9 months beforehand). Sure, we have had nights out where he has stayed with grandparents. I've been fine with this. More recently we have been discussing some upcoming occasions that will keep me from Izzy for the whole day. Potentially, the distance could have been a couple days. This has stressed me out. It has nothing to do with the adequacy of the care he will get when I am not around. I have two thoughts surrounding this difficulty; physical closeness and overpowering love. It is hard for me not to have him next to me because he is so much a part of me and my life. Then there is the emotional connection. This new love in my life cures all ailments. The crappiest days and moments disappear once he smiles or turns in my direction when he hears my voice.