Since I've known you, Ly, one of your most striking features is adaptability. No doubt, you'd be a charming and devoted wife, though matrimony doesn't seem to monopolize your possibilities for happiness.
So much misery is experienced by people who loathe their marital state yet, paradoxically, cannot bear the thought of solitude or the desolate single life. There seems to be a favorite delusion in Western society that as individuals we are vacuous and incomplete, and that our pivotal purpose in life is to find our better halves, that soulmate destined to redeem us. One's adult life often becomes entirely emotionally and mentally engrossed in this romantic mission, and when one does not find this person to supplement and perfect one's identity and being, a great disillusionment sets it. I am not one to discount the value of close, committed relationships, but perhaps some of us need to learn to be alone, before being 'together'? In any relationship a person retains their state of individuality, so possibly understanding of oneself as an individual should precede understanding of oneself as a partner?
Just a few thoughts of my meandering mind...I'd be curious to know your sentiments, though you needn't respond.
So much misery is experienced by people who loathe their marital state yet, paradoxically, cannot bear the thought of solitude or the desolate single life. There seems to be a favorite delusion in Western society that as individuals we are vacuous and incomplete, and that our pivotal purpose in life is to find our better halves, that soulmate destined to redeem us. One's adult life often becomes entirely emotionally and mentally engrossed in this romantic mission, and when one does not find this person to supplement and perfect one's identity and being, a great disillusionment sets it. I am not one to discount the value of close, committed relationships, but perhaps some of us need to learn to be alone, before being 'together'? In any relationship a person retains their state of individuality, so possibly understanding of oneself as an individual should precede understanding of oneself as a partner?
Just a few thoughts of my meandering mind...I'd be curious to know your sentiments, though you needn't respond.
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