a safe place to vent
I know I don't post here very much - sorry about that. I'm just not much of a blogger and I tend to do the little I do on myspace since that's where most of my friends and family are. But right now I'm having a bit of a conflict with my sister and I just don't want to drag any drama into center stage. This is a pretty safe outlet for me to let off some steam.
I have a sister. I have two of them actually but only one is an issue at the moment. A little over a year ago we began rebuilding our relationship. I went from having only one sister back to two (emotionally) and we both agreed this is awesome. She was finishing school and I went to her graduation and life was grand. Around christmas time things were tight financially for them (she is married) so I gave them a couple hundred bucks for food and groceries. In December (or January? I don't remember) she was in a crisis. Her car was about to be repo-ed. I helped her out by loaning her the amount that had to be paid to be good with her car loan. A couple months later she needed help (not much this time,$50) for a rental unit that was about to auction her stuff. I should mention the car loan I paid was $1600.
In the middle of all this she and her husband moved from oregon to arizona to be closer to his family. From there is seemed the drama never ended. Just a lot of turmoil seemed to be unfolding. The economy sucks where they are so Michelle (sister) really struggled to find a job. Not once was I stressing over the money cause whatever. We all knew she owed the money but I wasn't freaking out over her sending us cash. I was patient and was waiting for her to get a job and get her feet on the ground.
To add to the stress of all this turmoil, Michelle didn't have a cell phone (or land line for that matter). Rob and I were looking at family plans and thought, what the hey, let's just add a 3rd line and that way she has a phone and we'll all feel safer about all this. I had a long conversation with her about how she would have to start sending us monthly payments even if it's just enough to cover her 3rd of the bill. She was getting to a better place financially so she agreed. I stressed that I only care about the phone until she became more financially stable,then she can start sending me a little more to take care of the rest of the loaned money she owes.
Well this phone thing happened in April. We have yet to see a payment for her 3rd of the bill. But it wasn't even this that really pushed me over the edge to the point of getting pissed off at her. In August, a month before my wedding, Michelle calls to say she has the money for the plane tickets. Yay!! BUT... she doesn't have a debit or credit card. She swore to me up and down she just needed us to buy the ticket and she'd send us the check that night. I hesitated and told her it would have to go on a credit card and we really can't afford to do it either way. We were trying to safe our funds for, you know, a wedding. She said she knew, understood,and the check would be there in a couple days for us to pay it off and it would be like it never happened. I relented. A week later, a ton of excuses. She was robbed, bla bla. Very convenient.
To add further to this situation, I put our house rental in Hawaii on our credit card with the aggreement that my parents and my sister/husband would a 3rd of it back to me before the trip. Guess who didn't pay?
So basically my sister and her husband got a free trip and housing in Hawaii and WE were the ones who got married. AND she's been getting free cell phone service.
The thing that really kills me about all this is the fact that this is probably going to put a MAJOR strain on our relationship and I'm afraid we're gonna go back to the way we were before we started menting our relationship. But I can't let her take advantage of my kindness and patience anymore. We couldn't afford to pay for her tickets AND housing in Hawaii. It was something we budgeted for ourselves. We weren't anticipating paying for 2 more people. Needless to say out credit card debt is pretty high now because of this.
I've called her a few times this month with no return calls. She knows shit is about to hit the fan because she never ignored my calls before. I called tmobile and explained my situation. They said I can get a sim card and have her number transferred to this new sim card that I will have. I don't even need a phone. This will save us the $200 disconnect fee. I'm just waiting for the christmas specials to come out so Rob and I can change our plan to a much more affordable one.
All said and done, she owes us over 5k
I have a sister. I have two of them actually but only one is an issue at the moment. A little over a year ago we began rebuilding our relationship. I went from having only one sister back to two (emotionally) and we both agreed this is awesome. She was finishing school and I went to her graduation and life was grand. Around christmas time things were tight financially for them (she is married) so I gave them a couple hundred bucks for food and groceries. In December (or January? I don't remember) she was in a crisis. Her car was about to be repo-ed. I helped her out by loaning her the amount that had to be paid to be good with her car loan. A couple months later she needed help (not much this time,$50) for a rental unit that was about to auction her stuff. I should mention the car loan I paid was $1600.
In the middle of all this she and her husband moved from oregon to arizona to be closer to his family. From there is seemed the drama never ended. Just a lot of turmoil seemed to be unfolding. The economy sucks where they are so Michelle (sister) really struggled to find a job. Not once was I stressing over the money cause whatever. We all knew she owed the money but I wasn't freaking out over her sending us cash. I was patient and was waiting for her to get a job and get her feet on the ground.
To add to the stress of all this turmoil, Michelle didn't have a cell phone (or land line for that matter). Rob and I were looking at family plans and thought, what the hey, let's just add a 3rd line and that way she has a phone and we'll all feel safer about all this. I had a long conversation with her about how she would have to start sending us monthly payments even if it's just enough to cover her 3rd of the bill. She was getting to a better place financially so she agreed. I stressed that I only care about the phone until she became more financially stable,then she can start sending me a little more to take care of the rest of the loaned money she owes.
Well this phone thing happened in April. We have yet to see a payment for her 3rd of the bill. But it wasn't even this that really pushed me over the edge to the point of getting pissed off at her. In August, a month before my wedding, Michelle calls to say she has the money for the plane tickets. Yay!! BUT... she doesn't have a debit or credit card. She swore to me up and down she just needed us to buy the ticket and she'd send us the check that night. I hesitated and told her it would have to go on a credit card and we really can't afford to do it either way. We were trying to safe our funds for, you know, a wedding. She said she knew, understood,and the check would be there in a couple days for us to pay it off and it would be like it never happened. I relented. A week later, a ton of excuses. She was robbed, bla bla. Very convenient.
To add further to this situation, I put our house rental in Hawaii on our credit card with the aggreement that my parents and my sister/husband would a 3rd of it back to me before the trip. Guess who didn't pay?
So basically my sister and her husband got a free trip and housing in Hawaii and WE were the ones who got married. AND she's been getting free cell phone service.
The thing that really kills me about all this is the fact that this is probably going to put a MAJOR strain on our relationship and I'm afraid we're gonna go back to the way we were before we started menting our relationship. But I can't let her take advantage of my kindness and patience anymore. We couldn't afford to pay for her tickets AND housing in Hawaii. It was something we budgeted for ourselves. We weren't anticipating paying for 2 more people. Needless to say out credit card debt is pretty high now because of this.
I've called her a few times this month with no return calls. She knows shit is about to hit the fan because she never ignored my calls before. I called tmobile and explained my situation. They said I can get a sim card and have her number transferred to this new sim card that I will have. I don't even need a phone. This will save us the $200 disconnect fee. I'm just waiting for the christmas specials to come out so Rob and I can change our plan to a much more affordable one.
All said and done, she owes us over 5k